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i met a handsome attorney that ive been playing tennis with for the past 4 weeks. i spoke to him about h spending a lot of $. he said a forensic accountant could find out if h is withfdrawing large amounts of $ to purchase things. He said he wouldn't worry to much about it. he is not a divorce attorney he is a corporate attorney. Im suppose to play tennis with him today and go to a barbeque after with him, and his married friends we are playing tennis with. I dont know if he is considering this a date. I feel kind of nervous and confused about doing this though, because i feel attracted to him, he is divorced.

Why can't you look at this as a gift?

You are allowed to have fun,

and this IS a gift b/c you are finally realizing that there are other men in the world who are kind, decent and smart. Yay.


Have you hired the div L yet? (Please say 'yes'....if not, What's stopping you?)

I had a nice time playing tennis today. Then i went to the BBQ and met some nice people that play tennis. My new male friend asked me to play tennis tomorrow, so Im looking forward to that, he's a nice guy.

That all sounds good.



So Can you answer our questions?

no i have not gone yet. maybe i should just leave things how they are for now. H is giving me any $ i ask for and more.

I would leave things as they are, don't worry about a thing. I wouldn't talk about seeing a lawyer, filing, or anything else, just leave things the way they are.

Sure, because that's working so well.

(((rolls eyes)))


Starsky

I think braveheart is being sarcastic


she knows her h cannot pay his taxes, for the last 3 years.

He spends like a drunken sailor on himself and OW

He wanted to take the money from their son's college fund

he asked if her life insurance was paid up....


So for her to say it's all fine b/c right NOW he's sending enough...and can stop that any day without notice

and she'll have NO RIGHTS b/c there is no agreement


sure, do nothing... She has been here since 2007



doing nothing...and she IS alive...so I guess that's enough

are you hoping the new man rescues you? B/C that is the only way you will be strong enough to do something? Anything? Even for your son?

you will have to DO something....someday so you can choose to ACT

OR REACT

so far you have only done the latter...and it has NOT achieved your goal

You don't really follow DBing do you? I'm sincerely wondering.

You don't talk about 180s or how you have changed...

seems like you just wait

So how is THAT working for you?


Your fear of rocking the boat will end badly

b/c your h is sinking the money ship

and you are staying way too long on the sinking ship.

Too bad your boy is on it with you.

To be fair I don't know if he's actually spending the money or if rysmom has been exaggerating her fears of it. There was a time she suspected him of wanting a baby with OW because he was receiving email spam from baby places.

rysmom, irregardless of whether or not this new man is in your life, continue to get help for yourself. If not and you fall for this guy and he breaks up with you, you're going to be doubly depressed. It's in the initial stages, so now is the time to do it.