He would say that I am stubborn, that I have finacially drained him because I have not been able to being in the income I used to. Although I certainly was aware of that and tryed to make it up the best I could. That I was not emotional enough with him and that I can be cold at times. I will admit, as I did to him I know I have my faults but I will tell you this was a HUGE eyeopener for me. I guess I just thought he would be there for me and that we were strong enough to get through things. My daughter left for college last fall and that was a huge adjustment. ( I am tearing up now and can't see the keyboard) I don't know where he is right now, he seems so distant and this just came out 3 months ago. since then I have pulled myself together and changed my whole demeanor I listen I am calmer and consistant and just kinder.( a work in progress) He has put paperwork together off a legal website because he thinks we can work this out without having to spend thousands of dollars. He wants to sit down and talk to my daughter, he seems to think she will be Ok, I know she will not. I pray about this constantly, I try to stay upbeat and I do not whine ,plead, beg or talk about our relationship. That was the advice from my DB coach which I am following. I am just so lost!
Thank you ! As you know its not easy being married this long the thought of starting over at my age is tough. Plus like you said all those years we worked hard to get where we are and then these should be the fun years. Hopefully there will be an answer to all this. Its so heartbreaking..
