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I just got back from a walk with a friend. It was nice and sunny when we left, but started to pour when we were half way home.
We both got soaked, but we laughed about it. Not much you can do in a situation like that.

Am I wrong to feel upset that he won't be there?
I guess it's just everything that is hitting me. We rarely talk, rarely text and almost never see one another.

I'll be ok..I'm just venting.

DG,
you are not wrong at all to be upset that H won't/can't be at your surgery. However... please remember that us guys are poor mind readers. Despite being S, I don't think it's out of line to express disappointment that he can't be there (if it's done respectfully). I know one of the things my W didn't like was when I was hurt but didn't tell her. It showed a lack of communication on my part and also led to feelings boiling over after a point.

Glad you could have a laugh at the rain and storms. Remember that after the storms comes a beautiful sunset/sunrise.

I did let him know that I was frustrated, and I did say it respectfully. As respectful as it can be done via text.

I just said that it [censored] but there wasn't anything I could do about it so why get worked up over something I can't control.

I know he isn't a mind reader, but he was the one who was adamant abouT being there. This was back in February when I was originally scheduled for March but then it got pushed back until now.
So I feel me being upset is justifiable.

It all comes down to me missing my H and our M.
I look forward to the day when I can look back on all of this and be grateful I got through it.

DG,

Just read this whole thread and wanted to give you and your journey a big vote of confidence. You are making such wise decisions and getting through the storms feeling the feelings but not letting them sweep you away. Kudos to you, Gurl!

Whew, what a lot of wisdom written by you folks. I came back for a tune-up, had a pretty embarrassing pity party on the page, blush, but am dusted off and remembering my DB aikido form.

I can understand how you feel let down by your H. You've come so far now you're not going to let him throw you off this great path your on. Would definitely be nice were he there but smart to know it's out of your control. Wish you the best all around, especially to hang tight to all the wonderful things you are learning.

Wish you well for tomorrow

Ugh...I have been up since 1am with the worst stomach ache ever. I hope I'm not getting a bug or anything that will make me have to cancel. My surgery tomorrow.
I feel terrible, and I hate that when I'm sick there isn't anyone here to help take care of me. :o(

Ah man, I hope your stomach ache goes away. That's no good! I'll keep you in my prayers.

Thanks jB.

Hope your surgery goes well!

Thanks for the well wishes everyone. Thankfully I am feeling much better and I'm going to be able to go into work.
I am going to be off for the rest of the week and I know I'll be bored to tears so I am going to want to get out as much as I can while I can.

I'm feeling down today. I am grateful I have an IC appt today. I need it.

Good luck with your surgery.

At least you'll be knocked out for a bit tomorrow not thinking about your R. But when you do come around and for the next few days at least, try not to make that your focus. You'll need to physically heal.

YOU are most important right now, not the R your trying to recoup.