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Quick update…

I dropped off D with W this morning. It was a positive exchange. W was there when I pulled up and she looked a little beaten up. Not sure if she had been crying, or if she was just tired.

W came up to my truck and unhooked D. I snuck in and wiped D’s nose off saying “I don’t want to leave you with a snotty girl.”

W noted how cute D looked in the outfit I had her in.

We chatted a little bit about D, things she has been doing, our weekend together, potty training, etc.

W said she was going to go in and get a cup of coffee. She asked if I wanted one, before I responded she said, “I don’t think I will sit here and drink it.”

I said I was OK and I should be getting to work. I left thinking about this, should I have accepted her offer? Did she actually want to sit and drink a cup together? Mind reading I know.

As we were wrapping it up W said she would send pics, I said I would appreciate that.

I know you wise souls have brought it up, and truth is, I think I am fighting expectations a bit right now. IDK, just the way she is looking at me now, the way our conversations have been going. It all feels like something has changed. BUT, she is going through a VERY emotional time right now. I know how silly it is to try and read into anything she says or does right now. It’s just…. You know….

Honestly, I am emotionally drained right now. If we stick to our normal schedule, it will be a week before I see W again. I think I need the time.

Hang in there Country. It's hard to expectations in check sometimes. Sounds like you could use that week to think things through.

Hope your W sends lots of pics of D to you.

Thanks man.

I finally have a night to just kick back and relax and practice guitar a little. Until tonight, I've only had one night off without D in over a week.

I know I should go out and GAL, but I am BEAT!!!

I love that girl to death, but being a single dad is HARD WORK!!!

It is hard work, but trust me, the older they get, things get easier...sortof.

Anyway, enjoy the week. Taketime tothink about not thinking about things. I am sure your W has a lot to think about

I hate to sound like I am focusing on insignificant details, but I know DB talks about keeping a journal so you can monitor progress. Assess against your goals. So...

W sends me two pics of D. The unexpected part. The second one was of both HER and D. She has NEVER done this.

It was a funny pic of them both making a face.

Anyways, some comical chit-chat back and forth about D and that is it for now.

Baby steps, maybe. Just realize whe is going through a lot. She may move toward you then back off. She is dealing with a huge emotional life changing experience.

I am not trying to bring you down. I think it could be progress to. But time will tell

I think that it is definitely worth taking note of CS. Any change in behavior is worth noting. May mean something... may not. But what you are looking for is a pattern. IMO

BITS
Denver

Thanks Denver, appreciate it.

It continued. I was playing guitar and she texted again. It started off with D again. Then it got kind of deep and down with how her mom is doing. Then it turned into some casual chat with some humor, etc.

It has me a little tilted TBH.

I see the positives.

I'll take it.

It's just hard when I know what she is going through. Can't read into it, but man is it hard not to.

It also goes back to my comment of feeling like I am walking on eggshells. I know I shouldn't feel that way, but the more contact we have, the more time I spend questioning what I say/do. I guess I have to realize, she probably isn't reading into it nearly as much as I am.

Just when you think you have time to relax...

Country, I don't think the WAS reads into anything!!! But I have seen a lot of positives in your sitch. It is really hard not to. Keep your journal. Figure out what works. You have a lot going for you, and your W is sure to see that. TBH, to me, it seems is that you are really getting DB down tight. Keep it up.

Tell me about it!

And don't kid yourself... she is watching you ANYTIME that you have contact with her.

Denver