How can a man do this????? It's hard to see and hear things like these that your child is having these thoughts...right now I really hate him for what my daughter has gone thru wityhout me even knowing the extent of how much this has affected her. She is a beautiful,talented,caring young woman who will turn 18 in Sept. I hope this doesnt affect how she deals with relationships in her future.... can only imagine how she must feel....I dont care what you have done to me but when it comes to my children that is a different story.....I am so pissed right now....
Irma, I hope that now you can understand why I have been so hard line when it comes to these jerks! They are NOT going to be there for their kids! As much as you want them to do right, they aren't going to! I hope that you UNDERSTAND this! Sitting around waiting and standing for them after they have abandoned their children DOES NOTHING! As I have said, as much as you want them to do something, or think its right for them to do something, doesn't change their minds at all! You need to make some changes as well. Keeping your facebook page with you and him and stating that you are still "married" doesn't help your child, it contributes in confusing her! Build a new life for you and your children and stop living in the past!
Found out today my ex married the O/W 5 days after our anniversary...but you know what I am ok.....the man he has become is not the man I married...he is selfish,arrogant,self centered,short tempered,and very verbal speaks his mind at the drop of a hat. When he takes our daughter out she tells him right away dad dont embarasse me cause he will argue over the smallest stuff like the popcorn costing more than the movie.lol He was such a caring and loving father to our children and a good husband to me, but the way he is now I don't like very much. Snodderly has always said they are the opposite of who they used to be....and boy is he How sad that is, but all is good here at my home, I know I tried everything I could to bring him home I fought a good fight and that was on my knees praying for God to heal me and give me peace which he has thank you Jesus It took her 6 yrs for him to marry her..I just pray he finds the happiness he is looking for.... None the less I am still a little sad but I know God is still in control......
If I may? Pray he finds joy and not just happiness. There's a big difference
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
Sorry so late on this response Wendy have been kinda busy....all is good in Texas still pretty hot for the end of sept. but hey...what can u do.......today my children 29 and 18yr.old finally met with my ex's new wife the same one who he had an affair with 13 yrs. ago and the one he fell back in love with again and married this time. For the longest time they did not want to meet with her i think because for the longest time I didnt want them to..but something inside me said that that is enough..time to let all the hostility and let them know it was ok with me that they spend time with their dad and his new wife.. Funny I had such a sense of peace about it....but today when I actually saw her thru my window around my kids it made me sad all over again... felt the pain of the div all over again...the THAT WAS MY LIFE thought all over again.I had not had those feelings or thoughts in a very long time. I am happy as much as I can be except when the bills come due and I have to make it work...I love to coupon go to a movie talk with my bff and be with my family and spend time with God.. But today has been a crybaby day for me all the old feelings creeping back up on me.....and I dont know how to stop it..... I guess I need to get back in my prayer closet and LET GO AND LET GOD......IRMA
This morning I read something about nothing being permanent. And it really struck a chord with me. Nothing is permanent.
And today when my rotten feelings were clutching at my chest I took a couple of deep breaths and just let them melt away. My X is my past. He is gone to me. My future lies ahead of me. I don't know what it holds. I don't know if I will have enough money. I don't know how I will handle my kids and grandkids being around OW. I don't know anything.
But I do know I am a survivor and there are good things ahead for me. And more than that Irma, I know there are good things ahead for you. Just keep breathing!
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
