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I think that you are handling this situation the best way that you can Country. Be there for her if she wants you to be. that's all that you can do.

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Country, it sounds like you're doing a good job. I'm so sorry you're having to go through this on top of everything else. Like any of us need anything more on our plates.

You and your family are in my thoughts.

It sounds like you did all you can do, CS. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

CS,

You are doing the right thing and it shows that you care. When my FIL died a couple of years ago my W was in bits. I tried to help but I was not as supportive of her as I should have been. One of the many reasons she cited for leaving me.

Keep it up. It will be viewed as a positive.

I hope your FIL pulls through. Praying for you.

FF999

Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers.

It is hard for all of this not to create all sorts of emotion.

I feel strong and helpless at the same time.

Got a call from the W. They are life flighting FIL to Stanford for open heart surgery.

My W, being a nurse, uses technical language describing it all, so TBH, I really still do not understand the details.

I will be meeting W and MIL along their way to pick up D.

This is just all so surreal.

Aww Country. This is something you dont need. If you remember in my sitch, my w's mom died when we were talking about Recon again during march break.

She wanted me there with her all the time but then pulled back.
I was just patient and was there only when called upon.

It was very frustrating because I wanted to do more.

You have done all you can do Country. Just keep up with the sitcy from somebody in her family that you are tight with. There must be a cousin, etc that you can talk with.

My thoughts are with you. ( as always)

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Country,

I'm so sorry to hear about your FIL! I will say a prayer for him tonight.

I got a call from W before I left to meet them. They weren't able to fly him to Stanford yet. So instead, I drove up to her parents to pick up D so W could go back to the hospital.

I didn't hear anything for the two hour drive until I was right around the corner. Her dad was coding and she going to the hospital.

We met right down the street from her parents house and I got D. I started driving back to my parents house which is about half way between her parents and my house.

Not more than 20 minutes later, she sent me a text:

"my dad is gone."

I pulled over and replied "I am so sorry W"

I sat there for a bit wondering what to do. I finally started driving again and I am now at my parents house with D.

Unbelievable. Her dad was healthy! Exercised. Looked good. Only in his 60's.

What a shock.

I'm about an hour away if they need anything. But I understand if she doesn't want me around right now. All I can do right now.

Oh my Goodness Country!!!! That is horrible. I can't imagine what you must be feeling right now! My heart breaks for you and your wife. I will be praying for you guys tonight!!!!