Just sitting here between clients and thinking about more positives from the weekend and yesterday and thought I would post them -
I renewed a membership with the health club close to C's house (C & I had a joint membership there last year even though we did not use it that much) and was telling C that I plan to go in the mornings before work and she said she would meet me there to work out together.
also several weeks ago I stumbled across a Buster Brown sidewalk sale near my office and picked up several nice outfits for C's Granddaughters and Niece. C offered to wrap them for me and so I had taked them over to her house. Well last night she told me that while the outfits were there she preferred not to give them to the girls herself but that I should come over and give the gifts myself. She said that if I could not be there when the girls were, that we would work out another time for me to give them to the girls.
Good positives that she wants to work out with me (2 or 3 times a week) and that she wants me to maintain a good relationship with her granddaughters and niece (she always, and even more latey, told the girls "see what granddaddy got you" or "give granddaddy a hug", etc.)
on my 3rd cup of coffee and thinking about my positives. I have noticed a lot of threads lately are having a down swing. With the various sitchs in different stages of piecing rather than being a in a contented happy marriage, this could be expected, but folks we are dbing and in piecing and there is hope, at least there is hope in yourselves. So lets think positives and up, up and away.
1. Even though C is having renewed problems with her previous employee and is really down about it, she did call me yesterday to ask my opinion about that sitch.
2. I had a really good weekend and did not feel down after the weekend like I have in the past - got the feeling that C did not feel down either.
3. - have really good feelings about my continued piecing efforts.
Just got back from lunch with C - she is still having lots of emotional feelings about having to let her employee go and to go to the sheriff about the problem - she had become friends with her and it is really tearing her up. I could not really make a decision for her as to what to do but I was there to listen and offer support. As I was leaving I got a big hug and she really held the hug for a long time. I offered to go on a "road trip" with her over the weekend but she really did not have the time to do that but did suggest new years eve instead.
I really hate that she is going through this but I am glad our R is good enough that I can be there for her for support.
Just got back from exchanging gifts with my family and w/o C - got me down some too but I had other family there to help me. Mom, my Daughter and 3 grand kids, two brothers and their familys - and I also had a good lunch w/ C today. and also got a good voice mail on my cell phone around 6. (I had taken it off my belt at home and did not hear it ring - she was baby sitting niece and nephew and only knows my cell #) it started out with "Hi, Darling" and she thanked me for lunch and listening to her and said it was good to see me and that I looked great. but even with that, not having her with me tonight did get me down.
She did tell me the other day about a poem she had that helped her get over some rough times and she shared it with me. I think it might help some of my friends here too so here it is.
Keep Believing in Yourself
There may be days when you get up in the morning and things aren’t the way you had hoped they would be.
That’s when you have to tell yourself that things will get better. There are times when people disappoint you and let you down.
But those are the times when you must remind yourself to trust your own judgments and opinions, to keep your life focused on believing in yourself.
There will be challenges to face and changes to make in your life, and it is up to you to accept them.
Constantly keep yourself headed in the right direction for you. It may not be easy at times, But in those times of struggle you will find a stronger sense of who you are.
So when the days come that are filled with frustration and unexpected Responsibilities, Remember to believe in yourself and all you want your life to be.
Because the challenges and changes Will only help you to find the goals that you know are meant to come true for you.
Keep believing in yourself!
When I read this it sounded like it came straight from our DBing books - I hope it helps some of you that are down right now.
Morning coffee and time for positives from yesterday
1. had a good lunch w/ C yesterday - helped her talk out a problem w/ an ex employee. 2. she called last night around 6 said she was thinking of me and wanted to thank me for lunch and being there. also said it was good to see me and that I looked great. 3. Had a great time with my family last night doing the gift thing. 4. got another call from C this morning again saying she was thinking of me and to wish me a merry Christmas.
Good morning Holding and Pam and wishing all a happy new year
morning coffee again - and positives for yesterday
1. got a call from C around 8 yesterday saying she was thinking of me and to wish me a merry Christmas.
2. had a good time with family at Mom's for Christmas dinner
3. D and grandkids came over last night for a little one on one time and some small gifts.
I have to go to the gym today at 11 - I signed up for a personal trainer - need to really tone up and get my last 10-20 lbs off and down to my target weight. I feel that getting really in shape and to build up my endurence will help with my libido problem (Testosterone supplements are helping but it is not where it needs to be) At least getting in shape will not hurt any and it will help my self esteem (the 20 lbs I have already lost has help in that area alot) I guess this is kinda like a new years resolution but it is one that I will keep - I will do it for myself and my PMA Next year will be great.
Dear Odga, I thought it was time to catch up with you and am glad I found you. I am glad you have continued watching and noting the positives. I also like your PMA approach to the new year! Hint: if you integrate weights into your workout, you'll burn those pounds off sooner!
I wish you a continuing list of positives this coming year, ODGA!
Laurie, Divorce Busting Coach Contact The Divorce Busting Center at 303-444-7004 or 800-664-2435 if you would like to schedule a telephone consultation with a DB Coach - or email virginia@divorcebusting.com for info.
Good Morning Laurie - Thanks for keeping up with me - I do have one more pre-paid hour with you that I plan to use in a few weeks. I have held off using it as I offered it to C and she did not say she did not want to use it but she has not indicated that she wanted to use it either. If after I use the hour, she states that she wants to use it, then I would be happy to pay for an hour for her.
On the workout - my trainer has definately put me on weights and I have the sore mussles to prove it. He says that within 30 to 60 days I should really notice a difference. He said I am in better shape than a lot of folks but that there is room for inprovement. (I guess he would have to say that so as to not talk himself out of a job)
PMA for the new year - I plan to make this a great year. If C wants to be part of it then that would be awesome but if not then it will be a great year anyway.
