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Re-read your post my friend. I'm not twisting your words around. You just mentioned about how you want to initiate contact and that you had given her time to be alone. In fact, it's the same message you've put on here for months.

I wasn't saying that you thought it was up to you to decide that she was alone long enough or whatever. I was just making the point that she has her own timetable she's following and that SHE needs to be the one to initiate communication that isn't purely logistical. So how often or had she actually called to say "hey how's it going with you" without tacking on a request in return? That was my point.

Whether or not you were afraid to communicate with her physically before, but could do so electronically is a moot point. You were afraid. It took awhile to get over that fear. I get that. I've been in your shoes so it's not like I'm just making this up.

You see that she's in pain. But you don't really know why. She could be sad about the sitch, she could be sad that the sun's not out. Whatever. You need to have her take the lead TOWARDS you. She knows you're there and if/when she believes it's safe to do so, she'll move in your direction again.

So the words aren't "twisted" it's how you decide to interpret them. It's like M in general. What one person means isn't how another may see it.


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fair enough lol


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