Yipi! Attention junkie though I may be, I do prefer that when time and energy is limited it's spent on making real life better and spent on the wife and relationship. Otoh, my PMA just shot up, and it helps to know that I make a difference and that my thoughts/feelings/experiences are not only appreciated, but actually usefull. And, also makes it easier, less scary to post, and more likely that I will add my 2cents.
BTW prepare to be shot down again, we are dealing with entrenched habits and strong emotion, a very tough combo to change. Instead of getting caught up in the drama next time, try hard not to take it personally, and see if you can notice small positive changes in the storm and acknowlege and compliment your W on her hard work, that specific things are better. This gives here more incentive for self control, and you something else to focus on besides the hail storm. Some things to watch for, is it less intense, say a 8 instead of a 10 (and yes I know for you that anything over 5 feels like a 10), is she better at staying focused on topic, is she helping you calm her, is the storm shorter, can she calmly let you know her main points after the fact? any little possitive that you can let her know how much you appreciate or notice is good.
