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Meganna ..... I find physical activity to be key. I have had to deal with A BOATLOAD of anger towards my W. I have used anger as driving force for greatness all my life and it is a default state when I feel wronged.

So, I lift weights ..... HARD. I get pissed at the weights.

I used to scream in the car to let it out ... thought I don't feel that need any longer.

Walking the dogs for miles and miles .... playing with my 2 yr old at the park ... taking her somewhere fun .... just focusing on enjoying my time with her always makes me feel better. I remember that W is going to miss out on this time with her .... and your H will look back and view that missed time with regret I'd bet.

And .... I tell myself over and over "she is her problem now"

And your H ..... is HIS problem. I feel sorry if he ever realizes what he's done and has to feel what comes after that. And if he doesn't .... well ... he probably wasn't going to be much of a good partner anyway.

But, take care of yourself. This it the only life you get. You're going to be angry ... but you still don't get another today and neither do your kids. Enjoy today as best as possible and let H figure out what his life is about.

You're not alone. Good new for you, bad news for us :-)