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Am I being overly sensitive for feeling a little bit put off by the fact that H hasn't told anyone that we have been communicating?
His family and friends have no idea. He has always been a private person and has never aired his dirty laundry and for the most part I know that.
But what's wrong with saying "We're separated but communicating." When people ask?

It makes me feel like he's ashamed or embarrassed.
When I tried to tell him that he said he doesn't want people's opinions or advice so he'd rather keep his mouth shut.

Thoughts?

I think it's not really that big of deal. If he's a private person it's probably a lot to just tell them is status. I'd bet he doesn't want to get drawn into a conversation about what's going on when someone ask "what do you mean by communicating?"

My W is a very private person as well, so I guess I'm used to it.

Ask yourself why is important to you that he's not saying what you want.

I guess maybe if he tells other people that we are working on things, then it will be real.
He was very quick to tell people we were getting a D, and he says he regrets that and doesn't want to tell anyone anything else until we know for sure what is going to happen.

Me just being insecure again I guess...better start snapping my rubber band......

Journaling-------

I went over to a friends house tonight for dinner and had a wonderful time.
I made a conscious decision to leave my phone in my car so I wouldn't be checking it every 10 minutes. You know what? I didn't touch it for over 4 hours! And not only that, I didn't even think about it....much.
When I turned it on I didn't have any messages or anything from H and it doesn't even bother me.

Baby steps!!!!

Journaling------

I am actually kind of down today. I really miss my H.
I know I need to be patient and let time be my friend, but sometimes it's really really hard.
I want to rebuild our lives together, and I'm scared we'll never get there.
I'm scared we'll drift apart.

I'm just scared.

Journaling ----

My pancreas is giving me problems again, I can't wait until my procedure in May when this will no longer be an issue (hopefully).
So far my pain meds seem to be helping so hopefully I won't have to go to the hospital again.

I went to sleep pretty early last night, I was exhausted.
I went to the library this weekend and got a book that wasn't about saving your M for once. It felt good to read some fiction and lose myself in the story. I must have really needed it, because I am almost finished with the book.

I'm still missing H a ton, but I keep reminding myself to be patient.
My boys are with me this week, and I'm grateful for the distraction.

DG, just getting caught up on your sitch over a busy weekend. I wouldn't worry too much about what he tells people. After all, he told people early on you were getting a D, but it definitely looks like he's not thinking that now.

It definitely sounds like you are heading in the right direction and I am very happy for you. Just hang in there. Remember - baby steps. It's a marathon, not a sprint.

DG, keeping you in my prayers for your sitch and your health.

Thank you JB.
I am scheduled to have a procedure done in May that will hopefully take care of the issue with my pancreas. It has been very difficult to deal with, especially deal with alone, but I am doing it.

Your right- I shouldn't care what he tells people, that is just me letting my insecurities get the best of me.

This is definitely a marathon for sure. It's been the hardest yet most rewarding thing I've ever gone through.

Journaling-------

H came to visit me today, and we ended up ML.
I won't lie, it was great and I have no regrets.

I always get so emotional though and as much as I try to stay away from R talk it always seems to come up.

I wish I had a crystal ball........