My other thread was locked so here goes. This weekend we talked all weekend her even asking bout what i had planned. Sunday i really messed up and asked her about a guy on her facebook page. her response was omg he is a friend that works next door dam. Guess im starting over from scratch one little mistake will kill you.
One little mistake won't kill you. One thing I know after a year and half of this stuff, is that "no one thing means anything in my new normal".
That simple sentence has kept me grounded on many occasions. Act "as if" it was just a casual question, like it would have been in your previous normal, and it will be less of a deal to her. Don't make it into more than it is.
Not a horrible backslide John but one nonetheless. Just move forward and dont apologize for it.
You dont know if she was really offended or secretly loving the fact that you still care for her. Either way, it was a minor mistake but dont repeat it.
My wife told one of her friends that she was upset that i didnt get jealous. She saw that as I didnt love her as much as I should have. i saw it as complete trust. To be jealous is to be insecure and to not trust.
OH well, the WAS, who can figure them?
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Well my wife is having a birthday party Saturday night. i offered to drive her there so she could drink and have fun. her response was i will let u know. i left it at that and will not mention it again.
if she refuses or doesn't says nothing else about it. i will go do something else that night and will go back dark. seems the only time i get a response from her is when im dark.
