OK...time to vent a little. Things have been going great. We've made piecing agreements.
I'm miffed right now.
We have dear friend in hospital. We planned on going to visit tonight. So, we talk by phone this AM and he says that instead of driving 30 minutes home and then 60 minutes to hospital, he will just meet me there. That means we both drive up and back separately. I say that a) that's a big waste of gas & b)I had looked forward to spending time in the car together up and back. It could give us a chance to be with each other without kids and dogs etc.
My thought bubble: "Why can't he WANT to plan AND plan to spend time together? He wasn't so friggin practical when he was planning to be with OW."
So we talk a bit later (calmly ;-) )and we agree that it was all these "practical planning practices" and not thinking of the other and including the other that got us so disconnected from one another in the past. THAT is what we need to pay attention to. We agree.
He then tells me he will be home by 3:30 or 4:00 and we can go together.................... I just got a phone call from him (it's 4 PM) and he was at the garage with his car. So I say, "You told me you would be home at 4:00." He says, "I told you I was getting my car fixed this week. I just didn't get a ride to it until now. What's the big deal?"
Before the A it was never a big deal. He could have shown up at home at 6:00 and I wouldn't have thought anything about it. It's all different now. That carte blanche trust is gone.
I don't know, it just feels like when he does this, he really doesn't get it. No, I don't think he is cheating or anything. I'm looking at the changes we need to make and do we keep our agreements. Know what I mean?
MZ
M 55 H 58 M 24 T 29 S 22,21, 19 Bomb 4/10 It (A) really isn't about you 11/2013 We all have work to do
The truth will set you free, but it will almost kill you first.
We talked, I simply stated my thoughts as briefly as possibly. He was a little defensive which was disappointing. Anyway...let it go...He thought we would save more time by going there right after work and then getting back home with more time to spend together. Time in the car together is nice for me.
Guess I'm sensitive right now. In 5 days it will be one year from the day I confronted him and when all the really big lying began.
M 55 H 58 M 24 T 29 S 22,21, 19 Bomb 4/10 It (A) really isn't about you 11/2013 We all have work to do
The truth will set you free, but it will almost kill you first.
