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Hey country, also dont have much to add except hang in there buddy and keep playing the guitar. I just got off on the drums, which is all im getting off on these days, but it does feel good to play. Like I said, some day when you get you guitar riffs up to snuff , I will come to Norther California and we will jam for either our wives or pick up.

Yeah, like thats going to happen any time soon. My drumming is terrible but i do like it.

Be strong Country,

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Keep it up, I am practicing every day!!! By my estimation I should be a rock star within a few years!

Don't know if you're into it, but NPR is streaming SXSW...

Me, just an old time rocker. not even sure what you said about NPR and SXSW. YIIIKES, im out of the loop.

Fav band is RED RIDER. Obscure Canadian band with Tom Cochrane as their lead. Songs like Lunitic Fringe, White Hot, Life is a highway etc..

Give them a listen Country and we'll go from there.

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Just gave it a listen, good stuff. Reminds me of Dire Straits with a Pink Floyd solo in the middle

TBH, there really isn't a genre of music I don't like if it is done right.


BTW, NPR = National Public Radio and SXSW = South by Southwest which is a large music festival held down in Austin every year.

Man country , you are getting cooler by the minute in my eyes.

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Haha, thanks man.

Any reference to Pink Floyd is cool as sh!t!!

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Bond made a comment in another thread about contacting the OM. That comment stuck with me, it made me think. I have real mixed emotions over it, but I did write something down this afternoon. This will most likely be like the letter I wrote to my W a while back. A way to let out my thoughts, but ultimately never send it. Anyways, this is what I wrote. The thing is, I cannot imagine this guy ever listening to reason. I cannot imagine he would really ever listen to me period, probably just try to use it against me in the fight for my W....


At the end of the day, when each of our lives is inevitably over, we will be judged by what we did with our time here. Not what we said, what we thought, or what we felt, but what we did, the choices we made. I cannot blame you for having feelings for W, she is an absolutely amazing person. What I disagree with, is how you have chosen to act on those feelings. You made a choice to get involved with a married woman. You made a choice to continue that relationship.

I am not writing this to try to make you feel bad yourself. We all make decision we ultimately regret. I have to live with the poor choices I made in my married. I realize how my poor choices led to the situation my family is in. However, we cannot change the choices we made in the past, but we can learn from them and try to make the right decisions going forward.

Ultimately, I am only asking you think about the choices you are making. Whether you believe they are truly the right decisions. Truly the right thing to do.

Love is an emotion, just like anger or sadness. We feel them, but they do not control us. We have to make choices every day how we will act on these emotions. So while you may not be able to stop loving W, you can decide to stop acting on it. You can choose to do the right thing.

Even if you did decide to step aside, and let our family make this decision on our own. I understand W still may never want to work on our marriage again. I fully accept that as a possibility. I just want our family to have a chance to make that decision, without any outside influence. A chance for us to do the right thing as well.

F'ing A Country... nice letter!!! But don't send it... OM will never listen to reason. They are morally bankrupt...

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I really doubt I ever will.

But…I don’t know if these people are necessarily morally bankrupt. My W is doing the same thing he is, and I do not consider her morally bankrupt at all. While there are truly bad people out there of course, there are also people who simply lose there way. This guy might just be completely blinded by emotion, much the same way I believe my W is. The human mind has an incredible way to justify bad behavior when the behavior feels good. The question I have is if there is any way through the blindness. Anyway to clear the fog. Unfortunately I think it is a tough egg to crack…