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Amen, be the better man. Difficult to do when the OM is pushing the buttons though.

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Thank you all for your thoughts. I will reply more later. I am thinking about contacting OM W, to find out what really happened and to answer any questions she might have, if she cares. It may help me more than contacting OM. I know OM left his W twice bf, but he told my W he had never had an A bf. Here us probably more he hasnt told her and I think I need to find out if I can. Any thoughts?

My thought is....NO WAY!!!

I contacted OM's W, one of the worst decisions I made. I don't see any good coming from it....

Why not. What could it hurt. She just filed for D.

I agree with Country (this time ;))

Every situation is different, so really I cannot say how it will work out for you, but here is why it was a bad idea for me.

She is a psycho! I felt that after I contacted her, it then associated me with her a little. That is a BAD thing for me.

I felt like it created “teams.” Now it was my W and OM against the LBS’s.

She kept contacting me after initial conversations.

Did I mention she is a psycho?

Like I said, every situation is different so who knows, but keep in mind there is a risk there. You have no idea what this women is like, or what she might do after you contact her. Tread lightly…

Point well taken and I will DEFINITELY keep that in mind while I think it through.

"he told my W he had never had an A bf"
... until you came along baby.

Just disgusting how they make it sound "romantic". Yeah you're my first A. I can tell you she ain't gonna be the last.

I know that and you know that...but she don't know

And I am sure she wasn't his first A either