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How do you know he is planiing on filing?

i called him and said "lets go to a mediator if you love her and want to be with her". h said " i want to wait til the housing market gets better to sell houses, just relax". I said it's not going to get better, Ive heard it's going to get worse." He is living in a dream world as usual.

"lets go to a mediator if you love her and want to be with her"

Stop saying things like that. Stop making the A the reason for you to file. The reason you want to file is because you are being disrespected. Period.

Before you do anything else, go and see a new counselor to get your head on straight. Right now you're running around and basing your decisions on emotion rather than common sense.

Then go and see a L to know your rights. There are a number of public service agencies that can help you for free. Just call.

But most importantly. Get a counselor! I know you haven't had one in awhile despite you saying you do. Be honest with yourself and the rest of us here. YOu need help BIG TIME. You need the support of someone there. Being online is fine, but you need to take care of this depression first.

And let's face it you are facing MAJOR depression and need help right away. If not, I can guarantee that you will do something rash and will only push you further to the edge and hurt your son more than it hurts you. In the end that's who you're hurting the most. Your son.

I had a good conversation with h today. I wanted to call him because my son's car needs repair and h knows where we should bring it . I told h i needed to sell my car also and if he could give me $ for the taxes. He said he would give me $ and would call his friend at the dealer to make sure i got the best deal on the used car i want. My SUV i have now is an 8 cylender and it uses a lot of gas that's why i need to sell it. I also asked h how his mother is. h said she is doing better and is coming home fri.
This is the first nice conversation we have had in 5 mos.

rysmom,

While I'm glad that you had a good conversation, I'm afraid it's just going to be a matter of time before something bad comes up and you start moving downhill again.

Have you sought help or support yet?

I go to my counselor every other week. She doesn't want me to be to dependent on her so i don't go every week.

What kind of counselor is this? That's the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard of. There's a difference between being dependent and being there when you need support. Does she allow you to contact her when you have those moments of crisis?

Change your counselor. Is this person a professional? What does and has she been suggesting to you?

Christian counselor, she has her masters in counseling. She tells me to focus on me and my son, and our lives. But i have difficulty doing this still. I think this is because when my father left when i was you we ended up in poverty.

edited-when i was young it should have been.

I went to the monastery for the ash wed. service tonight. It was very profound. The monk was saying "we are very close to the end times, just read the first 3 pages of the newspaper". I also believe we are close to the end times. there is so much evil in the world.