I went to the DB page. TBH, I had a hard time following it. I am not much of a FB guy. There were a lot of different posts. I read some. I tried to "like" one thing but all I could do was "like" the whole page. The whole thing is confusing to me...
BITS
Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
I was referring specifically to the article about how to talk to men. Not saying you need it but it gives you good insight into how men think. I is a good read. If you ‘like’ it I am hoping they will post one about women. Only 6 people have ‘liked’ it so far. I am not very hopeful
Birds of a feather my friend. About a year ago, I was out with a friend and a girl came up to me and wanted to talk. If you remember in my sitch, my W and I were separated at that time. The girl was attractive and we spent a while talking. It did feel good get female attention. That was the last time I saw her until two weeks ago. I saw her out again and made a point to avoid her most of the night. Finally, the alcohol set in and we began to talk/ flirt. We didn't talk long but this time she asked for my number and I gave it to her. She texted me last weekend. I waited a day before responding. When I did I kept it light. I deleted our convo and haven't saved her number into my phone. I am not sure how I feel about this sitch. Right now I am keeping my distance. Even if my M is over, I know I am nowhere near ready for anyone new, but I can relate to you. The attention is refreshing at times
you can always cancel..................i understand tho
when you feel unwanted, its such a nice feeling to get that attention from somewhere else....BUT.......if you are really fighting for your m, then what good will this do you?
it might be a bandaid for the moment and that is all, know what i mean?
I know that you're right grr. Really, I do. But all we are going to do is go meet for a beer. I honestly can say that I have no plans to take this far. I was even very honest about my situation. Said that I am just interested in getting out for conversation at this point. No false pretenses.
If my W finds out? TBH, should I care? She is having an active A. I don't think she could feel too bad about me having a beer with someone. The choice is up to her at this point.
I don't know if I feel like it as a bandaid at this point. I feel pretty good overall at this point, but I still have my down moments. IDK, it is a real tough call. On one hand I want to save my M, on the other I need to GAL and move on. Tough thing to balance...
BITS
Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
At the risk of getting 2x4's over my head and the BITS jumping down my throat. I say GO. GAL does not limit you to only male interaction. You have been honest with this person and all you want is some convo.
I see nothing wrong with this. One thing is to actively date and the other is to share a beer or meal with someone who just happens to be a female.
