IW - Yeah, my W is definitely being completely honest about the current situation. We've literally spent hours and hours talking about it. Not fun, for sure. But I really think that, ultimately, it will be good. She and I are establishing an emotional connection over this as weird as that may sound. I think that I am regaining her trust in me as someone who she can share her heart with... and as someone who is not going to judge her.
Still... it is all very strange and surreal right now.
BITS Denver
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
Denver, she is no longer hiding the OM. That is a very good thing. Remember, when it is out in the open, it is not as fun or shiny. Yes, using the word "still" probably had some significance. Just be careful, OK? That last text could have been pushing a bit. I am glad you got a good response though.
Dude, I am telling you. This OM is "on the ropes." And, YOU PUT HIM THERE!!!
Keep posting!!!
BITS never walk alone!!
FOBD
Me: 39 W: 36 T: 15 yrs M: 9 yrs S: 09/10
So you can get on with your search, baby And I can get on with mine And maybe someday we will find, That it wasn't really wasted time...
So as told in my last update... friggin OM was going to my W's place to help SS finish (or hopefully to finish) some science project for school that he had already started helping him with.
I decided to call W today to see if I could draw her away from that situation... I offered to take her shopping!! LOL...
I've known for a while that she has wanted some "ug" boots and I figured that she'd really need them for our trip to Buffalo.
So anyway, I called her this afternoon to see if she wanted to meet me at the mall ... Of course, she was excited when I told her that I wanted to buy her the boots... and agreed to meet me after I got off of work.
Ended up hanging out with her for 3 hours while OM was helping SS with his project. I bought her the boots and she did a little shopping for herself too. I helped her pick out an outfit for Buffalo... good times.
She did mention that she was feeling a little badly about being with me while OM was 'watching SS'... She said that OM was driving her crazy and 'smothering' her...
After shopping, I walked her to her car... She thanked me for the boots and I told her that I enjoy spoiling her... She said that she is looking forward to the trip to Buffalo and that she thinks we'll have fun. I hugged and kissed the top of her head and told her goodnight... and went to my car.
On my way home, she called me bc she said she had meant to ask me if I could drive her and SS to airport on Wednesday (she is leaving for Buffalo 1 day before me)... I told her that I could... We chatted for a couple of minutes and then said goodbye.
BITS Denver
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
Did she choose the cute ones with the button on the side? How long will you two be in Buffalo? If the honeymoon at Niagara Falls goes well, OM will just be a memory. I think you are doing really great.
Did she choose the cute ones with the button on the side? How long will you two be in Buffalo? If the honeymoon at Niagara Falls goes well, OM will just be a memory. I think you are doing really great.
LOL... no, she chose the originals bc they seem warmer... I told her we'd buy the cute ones next winter
W, MIL, SIL and SS will be in Buffalo for a week. I am flying out a day after them and coming home 2 days before... I couldn't take that much time off from work.
I hope that you are right about OM being just a memory soon. I am being pretty good at seeming to my W that I am being very patient... but inside? Every mention of OM is like a knife in my heart... and not very patient.
BITS Denver
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
The trip to the mall to buy her boots was brilliant. You do have the OM on the ropes. Keep on keeping on.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
The trip to the mall to buy her boots was brilliant. You do have the OM on the ropes. Keep on keeping on.
Ha! Thanks. I thought so ...
BITS Denver
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
Update... (from late last night... after the trip to the mall)
I texted W at 10:40 p.m. to tell her goodnight:
Me: "Hey baby... just want to say goodnight. Sorry if I seemed a little down on the phone. Didn't mean to."
W: "Don't apologize. I figured it was the situation. I'm one of hell of a cranky b!tch today though. This dvd is still giving me grief."
Me: "I miss my 'cranky b!tch' ... No luck w getting it copied?"
W: "Ha! I will remind you that you said that one day. There are some things you should be happy not to have to deal with. Still exporting!"
Me: "Keep that text!! LOL!!! I wish I could help u with that dvd... but would be blind leading the blind"
W: "Thanks. I'm sure it will work out. Get some rest. Talk to you tomorrow. Night!"
Me: "Ok. goodnight." -------
W called me at around 5 this evening... we just chatted about her day and the trip to Buffalo. I am not taking W to airport bc I "still don't know where [she] lives". This issue is getting irritating. I guess that my W still isn't ready to share that with me.
BITS Denver
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
