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Originally Posted By: sandi2
So what do you plan to do while she's moving out?


Depends. I normally take my son to church on Sunday (one of his favorite places; he talks about going to church all the time) and have lunch at a taco truck (another of his faves), so if taking him out on Saturday will negate our Sunday together, then no. I will hang out with one of my church families.

Is there something you're hinting here, Sandi? smile


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No hints from me. I think you have the right answer.


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Thanks Sandi. Just getting a response from you is good enough to cheer me up.

I actually had an amazing day with my son. My wife called it her packing day; I call mine quality time with my boy. We went to one of our more frequented children's museums in Berkeley. They had a new setup, so my son had a blast with the firetruck and hospital e-room. Then we went to Chuck E Cheese's for lunch. It's also one of his favorite spots. I'm spending every second of my time with him like it was my last. Heck, writing this is making me cry. I hope...correction...I DON'T want to be phased out of his life. He is my pride and joy. He even gave me three kisses and a tight hug when I got him out of bed this morning. That's rare and makes me so weak in the knees just thinking about him being gone from my life.


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Originally Posted By: sandi2
So what do you plan to do while she's moving out?


Alamo: Personally i'd not be there man. My Wife and her sister came in one day and took everything of hers and our daughter's away in a van. I mean everything. All the photos that had her family members were gone. We spent 1 week decorating our daughter's room. stripped clean. If i was at home that day, i might have ended up in the hospital due to a heart attack or stroke. Before they came, i thought i should stay. But i decided against it. I think i made a good choice. The home was not the same again. One thing i did do that evening was to video record everything in the house. If nothing, i wanted to show my daughter one day when she's older, how mommy and daddy decorated the house and her room and how our old home used to look like. I am a sentimental fool frown


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Karma, i'll be out that day, it's decided. In a couple of months it'll be my turn to move out since I can't afford to keep it. In the meantime, it'll be one huge quiet, lonely house that used to be filled with some semblance of love, joy and laughter. I've always been a family guy and I hate the thought of being single again.


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I just noticed my wife reverted her FB name back to her maiden name. As if you couldn't tell, I hate being at this place in my life, guys.


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In a couple of months it'll be my turn to move out since I can't afford to keep it.


Don't wait until then, start finding a place now. The name of the game is "be prepared".

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I just noticed my wife reverted her FB name back to her maiden name


Look sweetie, you can't let things like that push your buttons. She's already told you she wants a D, so don't be surprised when you see her to things that endorse it.

Do yourself a favor and stay off her FB page b/c whatever you see is going to make you crazy.


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Yeah Sandi, i'm already keeping an eye out for new places. The two months is for the our renters' 60-day notice.


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Ok, good deal.


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Originally Posted By: sandi2

Look sweetie, you can't let things like that push your buttons. She's already told you she wants a D, so don't be surprised when you see her to things that endorse it.

Do yourself a favor and stay off her FB page b/c whatever you see is going to make you crazy.



I guess I've convinced myself that this entire time she is under a great deal of inner turmoil over her decision, where part of her is saying divorce, while the other part is questioning it. I may be naive for thinking that the part that has greater say is the latter, because that is the part of my wife I know - the caring, empathetic and loving person.


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