He came and had breakfast with me. He cooked. We did not talk R much...we took a short ride to beach. He brought dog food for the dog said I did not have to pay him for it.
He had a haircut scheduled and was going to put rest of stereo speakers in truck at stereo store. I asked if he wanted company. He said nah. He texted me later and asked if I needed him to bring cigarettes by as he knew I was almost out. I said sure, and that I could pay him Friday, as I did not have cash at house. He said he'd be by in a bit. He showed up, ate dinner with me, watched a bit of tv..but no R talk. Then, abruptly, said he was going to take off. I said that's fine, thanks for the smokes, and told him as long as he was clean and sober, he was welcome to come by Sunday as mutual friends of ours would be staying with me from out of town and were going to go rabbit hunting. They had asked if he might be there or could come to visit, if I did not mind. He then offered to come by and help me put second coat of paint on bedroom I am redoing on Friday..and also to help me get a few other things done to prepare for their visit. I said that would be great.
I asked then if he had found a place to stay and he said no. I said I hoped he found someplace, and that if need be when our friends were in town, he could bring an air mattress and camp out for a few nights...but that he needed to find a place. He said ok.
So, we shall see. I am in no way ready for him to just move back in with me. I need to know that he is truly committing to no drugs. However, I do think giving him a taste of what he is missing out on ...when friends are here to support me, will be good.
He came and had breakfast with me. He cooked. We did not talk R much...we took a short ride to beach. He brought dog food for the dog said I did not have to pay him for it.
He had a haircut scheduled and was going to put rest of stereo speakers in truck at stereo store. I asked if he wanted company. He said nah. He texted me later and asked if I needed him to bring cigarettes by as he knew I was almost out. I said sure, and that I could pay him Friday, as I did not have cash at house. He said he'd be by in a bit. He showed up, ate dinner with me, watched a bit of tv..but no R talk. Then, abruptly, said he was going to take off. I said that's fine, thanks for the smokes, and told him as long as he was clean and sober, he was welcome to come by Sunday as mutual friends of ours would be staying with me from out of town and were going to go rabbit hunting. They had asked if he might be there or could come to visit, if I did not mind. He then offered to come by and help me put second coat of paint on bedroom I am redoing on Friday..and also to help me get a few other things done to prepare for their visit. I said that would be great.
I asked then if he had found a place to stay and he said no. I said I hoped he found someplace, and that if need be when our friends were in town, he could bring an air mattress and camp out for a few nights...but that he needed to find a place. He said ok.
So, we shall see. I am in no way ready for him to just move back in with me. I need to know that he is truly committing to no drugs. However, I do think giving him a taste of what he is missing out on ...when friends are here to support me, will be good.
Any thoughts would be very welcomed. Thanks.
That's great, Res -- perfect.
Now, keep taking that exact same stance for 6 months, and let's see how he responds. I hope he steps up.
He is definitely being an alien. He had said to give him a call when I got up..so I did. He then said, "I don't know what I am doing today." I was mad, as he is playing games, so I said, that's ok and have a good day, maybe we'll talk tomorrow..but I gotta go...bye...then I texted him and said, sorry to be so abrupt but dog was getting into something and I had to go..have a good day. He responded by text..you too.
WTH? I do not know if I am cut out for this for long.
And then wait! Low and behold, a few minutes later...he texts
If you need to go to town, I can pick you up after I shower.
Again, WTH?
I responded, thanks, but tax refund not here ..just checked. Can't buy paint or household stuff til it gets deposited..hopefully tomorrow. Gonna work on my house some more today...have a good day..and thanks anyway.
I guess I just have to stop trying to figure him out.
Thanks, Starsky, I hope I am starting to "get it" and starting to do things that will
A. Benefit me in long run no matter what and B. Possibly allow him to see what he is losing and help him to make a decision as to what he really wants.
Well, things have been tense. Ow called his phone and I answered it. I asked who is this? She said name and said WHO is this? I told her and then called her a W**re and told her not to ever call again and hung up. I then took his phone to him and confronted him. I told him to call her back and tell her he was here and working on things with me or to get his stuff and get out. He hesitated and then tried to call her but it went straight to voicemail. I called it back..again voicemail. I have company so can not force the issue without making a scene, but I am going to tell him to try again IN FRONT OF ME and tell her to stop or he can go be with her and leave me alone. I am done playing games with him.
