He came home acting like everything was fine. I was on the couch when he got home and I did not get up to greet him. I waited until he came into the living room and said hi. He then proceeded to tell me about his flight, I politely listened and then went back to watching my show. He continued to try to engage me in conversation, I was always nice but simply answered if need be and went back to watching TV. He stayed in the same room with me at his computer the entire time. I got up and proceeded to bed without saying goodnight. This is something he would normally do and I would always be sure to "catch" him and say goodnight and hug him. I was in bed about 10 minutes when he came to our bed. He had not been sleeping in our bed before this trip so I was very surprised. Neither he nor I said anything when he came to bed. It was very bizarre to say least. I have no idea what to think....I guess that's part of my problem still trying to figure his crazy out LOL!
Sounds to me that he is noticing your new behavior. Your not being a jerk to him. you're doing great. He knows somethings up and has changed his actions but can't verbally communicate with you however. Interesting.
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I will keep u guys posted about how tonight goes. Weekends have been rough as he gets edgy being in the house with nothing to do. Plus he drinks more on the weekends, fun times.
I plan to take the kids out for lunch tomorrow and to the park. I am not going to sit around the house all day while he does whatever he wants with no regard to us. Life goes on buddy . Usually I plan family activities and drag him with us, no more.
Funny side note. A family friend did a background check on ow and she was arrested for embezzlement in 08 and also taken to civil court by creditors for a total of 16,000 dollars.
My h is a freak about his credit and we due Dave Ramsey so this really cracks me up. She has him so snowed.
Well last night h basically sat on his computer in the den with me and said vey little. Then after we put the kids to bed he decided to drive across town to pick up a shirt he ordered at pennies. It was 7:30 at night and was very weird. I just acted like it was no big deal. I am sure it was to call ow but he did come back with the shirt and even stopped at walmart so it must been a short convo.
He returned to sleeping in the spare bedroom. It appears me pulling back is pissing him off as he is acting very pissy and distant. Trying to find the balance between being to distant and cold and showing him I am happy and doing 180'S. This is so hard.
Just when I think things can't get any worse I found a shutter fly photo book the ow made. It was filled with pics of them from a trip they took 24-26 of Jan when I thought he was on a business trip. I thought my heart could't break anymore. I can hardly function at this point.
H has been so distant and hateful since returning Friday from his most recent business. How can he make me the bad guy when he is lying and cheating and I am here taking care of our 3 and 5 year old.
I'm so sorry Rileybug. I haven't read your entire post yet, just the last entry. I know how painful finding reminders of what your H is doing online. In my case, his affair was entirely emotional and only done online. I wish I could say the pain goes away... it does get less with time. One thing I had to do is delete him from everything like facebook or myspace... it was a definite test of wills to not to go to the sites or chat rooms I knew they were in. Once I was able to let go of finding out what he was doing I could focus on getting myself to a more functional frame of mind.
I know it's hard to think beyond the pain you're in. Maybe now is a good time to go dark unless it has to do with the kids. If anything it'll help you not say something you'll regret later.
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