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No offense taken Country. Don't worry about what I may think or what anyone else may think about what you do or don't do.

As a good friend of mine told me... Your pain will guide you.

BITS
Denver

Country my wife texted me yesterday morning. She was wondering what we had planned. I replied about an hour later just a fun day. Who knows what our wives are thinking and at this point it's not in our best intrest to worry about them.

Live your life and have fun!

Country
Thanks for catching up on my sitch. I know I will keep up on yours. The WAW with a small child like ours is mindboggling to me. I don't know how they can stand to be away from their child is beyond me. I hate seeing half of my D2 life through text messages and pictures. Like the emails from the WAW I posted on my thread say, they must have found a way to turn off there feelings. My W is like yours, sometimes she will be texting or calling about our D2 a lot. Other times, like this weekend, she will just go dark. I believe this is directly related to how active there A is. Gotta stick to our guns, go dark, be great dads, improve ourselves, and like Denver says "be the lighthouse"

Well, the family just left. It was nice, but also stressful! My dad can be a handful....

It feels good to have the house back to myself, D is taking a nap so I have a little piece and quiet. Feeling pretty good today. No text from the W so far. Wonder if she got the hint after ignoring her last two last night. Really, none of my concern, she will think what she thinks.

Looking forward to my DB coach call tomorrow, I feel like I have changed quite a bit in the week+ since the last call.

Nice to get back on here and read some of the other posts. Always some gems of inspiration out there. Thanks again to everyone for all of the support, this place has helped me more than you know.

Text: "what are you and the goose (D) doing today?"

Hmmm. I am included in that question, not just our D. Positive? Throw me a bone!

I responded "enjoying a beautiful day".

Just got back "Good. I was worried when u didn't respond yest! Have fun and send pics. Tell the goose I love her!"

Hate to say it country but I think you hit the nail right on the head. She is probably not texting when she is involved with the OM. Then when she is by herself I think that guilt starts up and she wants to play family again.

My wife is the exact same way. And I cant for the life of me understand how a mother ( with maternal instincts) can be satisfied raising kids part time. They are just being selfish at this point and only care about themselves. My wife's C told her that she displays very selfish tendencies and has not really grown up and acts like a teenager at times.

BE strong Country. Keep going dark cause thats all you have and your self respect. You can hold your head up high and go wherever you want. Can she make the same claim?

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BITS

To me it doesn't really matter if that is the case or not. Whether she text when OM is there or not is none of my concern and doesn't really change a thing.

I am more interested in reading into what she is saying, what she might be thinking. I find it interesting that she was "worried" and that she is wondering what "we" are doing. I might be reading too much into it, but it is interesting nonetheless. Have to find small victories to celebrate, right?

i dunno whats worse. My W does not have any contact with me unless it's to ask me for more documentation on the divorce process or to ask me more details on how we should split the assets....

Yeah, I don't know either! If I am totally honest though, I do enjoy the interaction, sometimes anyways. Others it can just make me think about things I don't want to think about.

What is the situation with your D karma? Does she spend time with you?