Hanging in there. Had some serious internal conflict with my goals of saving my M today, but I came to the same conclusion as before...I'm not giving up, ever.
Glad to hear, navy. I have been following your sitch. Don't give up, man. I know you love your wife but do it for the little ones as well. Don't leave one stone unturned when little ones are involved. I look forward to keeping an eye on your story.
Me - 33 W - 33 S - 9 months M - 3 years T - 5.5 years Bomb - 12/14/10 ILYBNILWY PA discovered - 1/18/11 PA began - 3/22/10 Separated
We all have them. In the beginning I was angry, why would I do this for this woman?
When you lose the anger and start to do it to become a better person you are on your way.
The feelings come and the feelings go.
Most people never come this far I would say over 60% never take this road..............what do you know isn't second M divorce rate over 60%
I wonder why.
2step is right. 60%. This 60% never fixed the problems they had in their first marriage. Keep up the fight. There is a ton to learn, but you are on the right path.
Me - 33 W - 33 S - 9 months M - 3 years T - 5.5 years Bomb - 12/14/10 ILYBNILWY PA discovered - 1/18/11 PA began - 3/22/10 Separated
Dude, I work out to that same Foo Fighters' song. Good tune! Keep it in your play list as it does speak some truth. Win or lose, you will learn to live again. No doubt! Keep up the good work!!
BITS never walk alone!!!
FOBD
Me: 39 W: 36 T: 15 yrs M: 9 yrs S: 09/10
So you can get on with your search, baby And I can get on with mine And maybe someday we will find, That it wasn't really wasted time...
Glad to hear, navy. I have been following your sitch. Don't give up, man. I know you love your wife but do it for the little ones as well. Don't leave one stone unturned when little ones are involved. I look forward to keeping an eye on your story.
That is what is so hard for me to understand and deal with right now...our kids are so wonderful and we are such great parents together...why can't we try to make things work???
BITS M: 35 W: 35 T14, M11 D9, S6 ILYBINILY: June 09 Unofficially Separated (long distance): 1/2/11 W came home: 3/17/11 EE: July 2012 Dropped the rope: Oct 2012 Piecing: April 2013 Not piecing: April 2014 Stuck.
Navy, so many of these sitchs are charged with emotions and justifications from illogical decisions that there is no making sense of them. They just are. The best I can do is try to learn from the past and move forward. Being a great parent is a great start, it is a place to anchor and begin from.
I know you are usually seperated by quite a distance. Do your best to make this time special. Show W your 180s subtley, don't thrust them in her face or talk about them. She needs to see even the small changes for herself.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
Yeah...but last time I was there for 5 days and saw W for a total of about 5 hours. How is she going to see the changes? She already knows I'm a great dad and has said it to me.
BITS M: 35 W: 35 T14, M11 D9, S6 ILYBINILY: June 09 Unofficially Separated (long distance): 1/2/11 W came home: 3/17/11 EE: July 2012 Dropped the rope: Oct 2012 Piecing: April 2013 Not piecing: April 2014 Stuck.
gr8...hanging in there, but can't get my mind off how dire my sitch is right now.
BITS M: 35 W: 35 T14, M11 D9, S6 ILYBINILY: June 09 Unofficially Separated (long distance): 1/2/11 W came home: 3/17/11 EE: July 2012 Dropped the rope: Oct 2012 Piecing: April 2013 Not piecing: April 2014 Stuck.
Navy, Try to change your environment when you get too down. It won't completely cure the problem, but it will relieve some of the pain. I use this when I can and it does help. Keep us posted!
BITS never walk alone!
FOBD
Me: 39 W: 36 T: 15 yrs M: 9 yrs S: 09/10
So you can get on with your search, baby And I can get on with mine And maybe someday we will find, That it wasn't really wasted time...
Yeah got out of the house and hit the driving range today, followed by dinner and a movie with some great friends. A good change of scenery. Then skyped with the kids who are staying at my parents' tonight. They both have a cold, so they were a bit out of it, but seem like they are holding up ok. I so can't wait to see them. Been dark with W for about 4 days now, and planning to stay that way until I get to CO. Just realized yesterday it's only been a week since i sold the car. It feels like it's been about 2 months.
BITS M: 35 W: 35 T14, M11 D9, S6 ILYBINILY: June 09 Unofficially Separated (long distance): 1/2/11 W came home: 3/17/11 EE: July 2012 Dropped the rope: Oct 2012 Piecing: April 2013 Not piecing: April 2014 Stuck.
