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Well, I was VERY into sex before my security was threatened. My H brought a lot of healing to me as far as my past was concerned. It was like I discovered a whole new world!!! But like I said, my security with him was threatened and that went away. Then, I guess I preferred take care of it myself. I never stopped being sexual, I just didn't want him involved. That was conscious.

When he upped the ante and stopped the kisses goodbye, the lunches, the smoke breaks and everything else, I went into hyper detach mode. Then I didn't want him near me. That was unconscious. I didn't even realize what I was doing.

So, my point? She's likely making both conscious and unconscious choices right now. Keep that in perspective because she is struggling a lot too. She likely doesn't understand everything that she is feeling. She may feel an awful like I do. I want to so bad, but I'm scared to death. It's your job to make it ok for her. You are building up the emotional bank, that's awesome. Now you need to get her used to the touches.

LIS

man, I wish there were an IM function here

I thought about this subconscious thing with my W.
I can literally see her catch herself when she tries to do something loving with me. It's almost like that wall grabs her to protect her.

HOWEVER. At night when that wall is non-existent and asleep, she rolls over with me. Holds me. Let's me cuddle in very sensual positions. I look at that as the true W and know that will some time in the future, be the norm.

Yep. Filling up that bank, baby!

Did you check out the KLA stuff from yesterday ?


Maybe you should read it and accept what it is saying ?

MG ?

boat, you are a SLY one...check out the Pete the praying mantis when you are there

Where is the KLA stuff?

I want to desperately!

That's all you can do then! Fill up that bank!

I wish I could talk to her. I feel bad for her because she probably doesn't understand everything that is going through her. For me, that's just terrifying. I would imagine her reactions are along the same lines...

This is all going to be ok, Bolt. Just keep the pendulum moving your way...

I only have so many paddles man.....

Hey LIS, check this out.

(well for everyone really)

I'm back to having fun writing and I post on FB that fact. About an hour later, the W texts me, "How's your day?"

I gushed how great it was to be writing again and thanked her a ton for kicking my butt. She was very flirty on the texts even though it was short.

Writing to me is like a drug. You do a little and you look up and it's a few hours later. Simply awesome.

anyway...back to my drug...

Oh... this is good stuff!!! Flirting... I'm a little jealous

I guess it is a little like me. She wants to, she doesn't know how right now!

LIS

also, she told me in that list yesterday that she finds that person, who is into getting ahead and passionate about something extremely attractive.

I'm just happy she's thinking about me during the day.

Small stuff, LIS!!!

I'm sending good vibes your way!

I'm so excited for you!!!

It's all in the small stuff. Small stuff is BIG STUFF.

I need the vibes/prayers! He's texting me a lot. His plane was also delayed 6 hours. So... I really should have not gotten upset. *Sigh*

LIS