Awwww... another big hug 2Step. I had to laugh my behind off as you were apologizing to ME. Too funny. You bailed me out, big time! Last night was going to go badly had you not been there. Seriously, I have my head up my a$$ somedays. I finally calmed down last night, just said to myself this might be the last time you hang out with your H so have a good time, then laughed as hard as I could.
You know what? He was in my office this morning, this afternoon, we had lunch (well, we ordered in lunch together) and he even gave me a nice smile (instead of one those, I'm so sorry you poor schmuck smiles) when I left for home tonight. And I've been home exactly 15 minutes and he's already left a message for me on my cell. So... maybe it was the last time we hang out, maybe it wasn't. But your help gave me a chance. That's all I need is a chance.
As far as the BITS signature, the ladies have a problem as we are trying to think of another signature as there is a fundamental issue referring to us as brothers, I guess. SITS was offered but then another fundamental issue arose about that possibly being associated with Sluts. Now, for me, I promptly admitted that given the chance with my husband, I have no problem being a slut, being called a slut, or having anything to do with slutty behavior. So I'll be called a BIT or SIT or whatever... Go find ZenGypsy. She's having a rough day and really needs some encouragement and the discussion is on her thread.
aww LIS glad you had a good time & lunch with your H. I'm sure he saw the glow in you and I'm glad you got the chance you needed. Stay positive and keep laughing !!
as for the BITS.. i believe I have to earn that badge. I'm following you all so closely and relating to all your stories with an open heart and i'm learning , oh how i'm learning. *hugs*
Me-41 H-34 T-9 M-8 10/21/10-BOMB 11/01/10-H moves out 01/27/12-H files
"Good memories tell you that your past was worth it, bad ones tell you that you were strong enough to go on"
The coolest thing about our BITS group, Chrysalid, is we're trying to break a record for the amount of members. So, YOU'RE IN. FOBD (Fellonblackdays) is our captain. Now, don't get too attached to the BITS signature as the ladies are revolting a bit... actually all in good fun!!!
Thanks for the encouragement, Chrysalid, goodness knows I need some.
I'm glad you are learning. I know I have learned a ton. Hugs to you, my friend!!! Better days ARE ahead.
Well he came to have dinner. Then said he was going to get going to get some sleep. He did have a very long day. So he came and hugged me and kissed me on the cheek goodbye (not awkward). Then went to get some clothes, then came back hugged and kissed me again. Then left.
Fast forward 5 long minutes later and he calls. My stomach was doing that topsy turvy thing when he was leaving, because I knew something was up. Just didn't know if it was good or bad. I hate when I get into the woods like that. Anyway, he calls and said that he wanted to talk to me tonight but not while I wasn't feeling well. (Failed to mention to you all that I cracked my head this morning, have a beautiful bump on my head and have had a headache and nausea all day). Anyway, he said he wanted to talk to me tomorrow about "coming home."
Unfortunately 2Step being as inconsiderate as he is was not in my living room with his 2x4 and I kind of was quiet, choked out that I was surprised and almost screwed this up. I managed then to pull it together to tell him not to take my reaction the wrong way, that I looked forward to talking to him tomorrow and that I really, really appreciated dinner and that it made my whole night. Which it did, because I really wanted sashimi but was in no condition to drive.
Anyway, that's the story right now. Hopefully, it goes well tomorrow. Hopefully you all have some last minute advice for me before I get into this with him. I don't believe that he is all in. I believe he still has some hesitation, which is what I am supposed to expect. So... fire away...
Well catching up on your sitch has put a great big smile on my face tonight. Good for you LIS! This is why we are all here. One step at a time, but Bravo! You are one your way.
So for your convo tomorrow...stay calm, stay strong and remember this...WE ARE ALL ROOTING FOR YOU!!!! You have your own cheering section, just for LIS!!!
You can do this. Read your DBing book ALL tonight if you have to. Sending you a huge HUG!
Me:35, 2 kids from PR H: 37, 2 kids with me T: 15 years M: 8 years in Feb. Second walk out: 14-01-2011 H had PA: 2007
This is great news!! Listen sweatheart look at yourself very closely in the mirror and determine what was your role in all of this. Accept it and work on it. He left. You were welcoming when he came around. He decides to maybe come home.
Do you see the pattern here? You are guarded. I get it. He is hesitant. I get it. Somebody though, has to do a 180 here and it sure as heck not going to be him.
