Even if you find she has someone else be her friend it will go a long way in possibly winning her back one day. No matter how bad it is no person can step into her life and have the chemistry you have had after a 12 year marriage. Hard as it is u just have to let it play out, believe me it will play out. If you cheated you just have to suck it up.
Oh one more important thing i did that killed me. DO NOT involve her friends or ask them anything about it. They will turn it around and everyone has their own agenda including her friends. Find you one person u can trust and talk to them thats it. Make her wonder about you.
has anyone ever experienced these feelings. I can talk to her now without any assumptions. Im not gonna say i dont care what happens but its oddly unmoving to me, like it was three months ago. Id like to reconcile but for some reason im not obsessed with her anymore. Is that a good or bad thing i feel like i dont care and am letting go.
You'll go up and down and back and forth on this for a while. I thought I was distancing myself from my H. and blammo...today I got angry for really no good reason, it was a minor irritant, but I had trouble with it.
BITS Me-51, WAS-52 Kids 2 M-26yrs, H.left 2009, 2 more Bomb drops, Reconnection spring 2013 Change is inevitable, personal growth is a choice. Love is a action and choice you make, every day.
John, its the roller coaster. Just as they cycle , so do we. I felt so happy the first time I felt detached, only to find out that in the next two weeks, I had a big crash. This has happened so many times that I just want to jump out of it but stillcan't. Right now I am on the upswing again, and hoping and praying it will last longer than my usualy 2 week cycle.
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go
i have given her alot of space and have gone from her completely ignoring my text to her answering me every time. does anyone think she may be having second thoughts and just softening me up so i wont fight her in the divorce
also she has this friend that i talked about she isn't a good person and does not have a positive influence on our marriage. i know i cant change my wifes mind about her does anyone think my wife will ever see this girl for the person she is
