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So I just looked at our phone bill...I know it is not good, but I did it. W spent two hours talking to someone on V-day. Went through the old bills...last time the number showed up was on S2's birthday. The number is from the place we lived when S2 was born. Called the number and a guy answered. Someone please talk me off the ledge here...

I'll point out that V day, is V day, but to some people it is just a day, without all the hoopla.

Coincidence? Not likely but, you never know.

How long ago was your son's B day?

Right now Navy?

All you really know is she talked to a guy, an old friend? A emotional affair?

You do not know...but I'm betting right now you want to rip into her.

Is it in your best interest to assume its an E or worse PA?

yeah...it doesn't hurt to prepare yourself for that as best you can...

But you do not know. You don't, all you have is a conclusion right now, from incomplete data.

Navy,

Are you going to ask her? What are you going to do? Because J3B is right and you do need a plan so that you are not acting on pure emotion.

I am so very sorry for what you are going through. I understand the pain that you are in right now. I know that you don't believe this but you are going to fight your way through this. You're very strong. Very strong. You need to believe that you can handle whatever all of this means.

Big, big hugs to you, Navy. I'm praying for you.

LIS

Hi Navy. I just tried to get familiar with your situation, but am probably missing a few of the details.

Listen man, I know EXACTLY how you are feeling right now. A couple of questions:

When was your son's birthday?

Where is your W now? Colorado still?

Where is the phone number that you saw on the bill from? Colorado too?

What happened when the guy answered? Did you hang up?

...

Jack is right, you don't have much evidence of anything right now. All you have are 2 telephone calls, right?

Don't panic. Don't let your imagination run wild. It may be nothing. Your fear is understandable. But you can't let it drive your actions.

Let's try to get a better handle on what is going on before you do anything rash. Ok?

BITS
Denver

I'd say that if you are willing to get her back to you no matter what, then just let it go. Refocus on something else. Going on this path i believe might bring you more anxiety, self doubt and just pain that you might regret later. Some things are better if they are just let go. In the whole scheme of things when she does come back to you this detail might not matter. Just my 2c

Navy:
One of the hardest conversations I've had was with my D 5th grade teacher. It took everything I had not to fall apart. He knew it and I knew it but I got through it and so will you

Where is the number from. Is it from the town she lives in now?

Hang in there, Navy.

Take walks, scream in the car . but hang in there.

She might've had and might be having some sort of a something with somebody.

But, what would happen right now if you confronted her? Would that make her stay?

You may just have to sit on this for awhile and process the information. If she doesn't want to be with you, there's not much you can do to make her. You need to take care of you right now. She is her problem.

Go out with some buddies, take your kids somewhere. Just take care of you and the babies.

You're going to live thru this and we have your back. We are with you.

When was your son's birthday? June, 8 months ago.

Where is your W now? Colorado still? Yes, still in CO.

Where is the phone number that you saw on the bill from? Colorado too? No, California

What happened when the guy answered? Did you hang up? Yes, I hung up.

I've already decided that I can and will forgive her if something happened...so, I'm not going to bring it up, as it certainly won't help me reach my goal of us getting back together. It's definitely not in her personality to do something like that, and she knows I can look at the phone bill, so she's obviously not trying to hide anything. I'm just being a nut...I'm turning into the guy in "A Beautiful Mind".

Really? I have some high level math you can help me with :-)


Well, welcome to the crazy train .... all aboard.

You may or may not have to face this issue at some point. But, you do need to tart working on figuring out your plan to GAL and detach. Please tell me what you are going to do for YOU this week. Get out of that house.