If you do something it should be because you want too no matter how he is going to react.
However, its generally not a good idea to present them with items or tokens of love, when they aren't in love with you. Reminds them that they are not.
A little more background would help people advise you too.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
Yesterday was hard and last night into the night was even harder. When H got home he never mentioned V-Day to me. But, he was reading a text and said...how funny. I asked what and he said his friend sent him a text how stupid V-Day was. I got very quiet for the rest of the night. I responded when spoken to, but didn't start any converstion.
The hurt just boiled over. I blurted out "It is so obvious that you don't want to be here. CLEARLY!" He didn't respond at all and I feel asleep on the couch.
When I left for work I told him to have a nice day and all he said was thanks...take a coat it is raining. What do I do now.
me:51 H: 48 No kids together M:14 years seperated:Ask him to GET OUT 3/21/11 Piecing 09/14
hi vs i am so sorry, i understand tho my h and i got together yesterday to help at our sons school party he never mentions valentines day to me, but every teacher of child we passed in the hall got a very big "happy valentines" from him
it was so hard to keep my mouth shut to make matters worse it was the 18th anniversary of our first real date
i think you just have to pick yourself up and go ahead dbing
Feb-14th is just a day. No different than Feb-13th or Feb-15th. If you can get over these things and make your relationship work, you can then make everyday a valentine's day !
BITS M 38 W 36 D 7 Married 15 yrs W left for 6 months in 2009 W Filed for D 01/03/11 piecing now...
He did send me a text this AM telling me that I forgot my wallet at home and if I needed it I would have to tell him NOW.
I thank you, but I can make it through the day. He responded to tell me that he won't be home for dinner. Yikes!!!
So, the cycle starts again. I reminded him just how much he doesn't want to be with me (after last night) or did I give him something to ponder. The next few days will be long
me:51 H: 48 No kids together M:14 years seperated:Ask him to GET OUT 3/21/11 Piecing 09/14
1) last night when I said "obviously you don't want to be here" and he said nothing. In the past he might have said something like..."Don't worry I will be gone soon enough" Does this look like a positive or a negative (maybe didn't want me crying and hanging on him, like I did Jan. 1st)
2) Why text about my wallet.
3) Why text about a dinner meeting tonight. He would have never done that (since the bomb) he would just respond when pathetic me asked about dinner.
I am trying to see positive but don't want to get my hopes up
me:51 H: 48 No kids together M:14 years seperated:Ask him to GET OUT 3/21/11 Piecing 09/14
