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LIS, sorry to rub it in...no I'm not
It's only about 70ish so it is a little chilly

I get husband of the year award today. She had to work at the hospital but woke up feeling really bad. It's 5am and I said that I'll make her some breakfast. I made toast and eggs but then heard her upstairs barking at her shoes (throwing up). She's been stressing over the move and hasn't been feeling well at all.

She came downstairs, tried to eat something and ran to the bathroom again.

I told her to call off but she said it was too late. I then offered to drive her to work. She agreed.

Well about 4 pullovers and yakking in the bushes later, she called work and said "not today!". I drove her back home and put her to bed. Actually, I called home for the girls to make the bed in our guest room. They're so sweet because they even made her some water and my oldest put a picture of herself in the bedroom.

I know this sent big brownie points to W. Now she can really feel how much I do love her without saying a thing.

She woke up around noonish just to come upstairs and give me a hug. It's those little things that keep you going.

I guess that's the hope that I want to keep giving to everyone out there. Watch for those little things when you are detaching. Eventually, your S will let a little piece of you back in. That's when you can both shine by showing the person you are becoming both with love and in patience.

Stay strong!!!

oh and, heck yeah party at my house! I overlook this huge canyon with plenty of room

YES!!! Party at Bolt's house!!! It is snowing and freezing here in Denver and you gotta go and talk about how you're on the beach!? Ouch Bolt... that hurts.

Just kidding man...

Sounds like things are going great for you. I can't wait to catch up with where you're at with you sitch!

BITS
Denver

Bolt,

I am rooting for you pal, if we get only one success story out of here my entire time would have been worthwhile because we have shared so much. You my friend are doing a GREAT job!!

I grew up in Miami FL and I am dying a slow death here in Jersey with 1 snow storm a week since Xmas, so you go ahead and enjoy that beach because I am hating right now!!

YOU SIR ARE MY HERO!!

just keeping you guys in the loop.

So after taking her to work only to turn around. I played nurse for a little bit and basically just do what I do now.

She told me to come talk to her around 5ish. She was feeling tons better but still taking it easy. She looked right in my eyes and told me that I won't ever realize just how much it meant to her what I did this morning.

It was the most sincere gratitude I've heard in a while.

It's funny because I do appreciate it fully. We've been very close and are snuggling more.

She keeps asking me to come down to the room to hang out but I'm still GAL a little. Not that I'm guarded but I don't want to get back into the flow just yet.

I took off to get some grub and pick up some beers (I'm a beer snob for sure). I was only gone an hour but she was asking what took so long

Seriously, I'm not playing a game, I just want us to be a work in progress for sure.

Like I've said for a while though, I'm not going anywhere. I hope I can be inspiration for you guys and give a little hope as well - it's so hard to believe that this is the same woman who relatively recently said that she didn't love me anymore and didn't think she ever could again.

There is hope, my friends!

Bolt, keep it up, buddy! It is really starting to look like the BITS are about to have their first official winner and I could not be more proud. Do you know what most star players do after they win the "big one?" The go into coaching. I am sure the BITS could use a good coach!

Keep us posted!

BITS never walk alone!

FOBD

I need to keep posting not only to offer hope but so I won't rest on my laurels and slide back. Hope everyone understands

PLUS, it may give a blue print on what can work.

I feel that I'm going into the "pursuing" phase where it's ok to do it. I feel that I'm wooing my W back and I have to tell you guys, it feels pretty good. I'm getting the warm feelings when I see her and when I talk to her. I'm so attracted to her right now it's pretty awesome.

She was doing the Michael Jackson Experience on the WII with the Ds and I couldn't take my eyes off her. My girl has moves! I told her that and said I didn't know she could move like that. She told me she was afraid to do that before because she thought I would criticize her.

MAN, am I glad I've been changing for the better. What woman would want to be around that kind of man?

One other great thing happened. She got super close with me because I helped nurse her back to health the other day. She's been feeling super and definitely has the load of the world off her shoulders. We had a great day at church (just her and I) - walked holding hands to church - she put her arm around mine like she did in the past - all great things.

After, I pulled close to her in the kitchen and said, I'm so lucky to have you as my wife. She almost cried and said, I'm so lucky to have you, the new "bolt" as my husband.

Yeah, I would say I felt pretty good. She's starting to let those good feelings back in. Still no ILY but that's fine right now. I'm taking the little (and not so little) things to heart.

One minor thing - for the guys to look for when you talk to your W - LOOK at her when she's talking, either to you or a group of people. We had a few friends over for the Super Bowl yesterday and were all chatting. W was at one end of the huge couch and I was at the other. Every time she chatted, I would show her my full attention (football be damned!) and you know what? She really only looked at me when she was talking. You know when you have that eye contact where neither one of you pulls away? That was happening all game.

I know that may seem minor but I truly feel that it meant a TON to her. I was paying attention to her EVEN when something I was truly interested in was going on. I know that will pay back.

The funny thing is that I WANTED to be engaged with her that way. That's the new bolt

anyway, I hope to give more encouragement and hope to all of us out there who are struggling. To see where I was just 2 short months ago compared to where I am now is truly astounding but I'm not done.

It's a marathon not a sprint, right?

BOlt,

Please keep posting!! This is great news! I think you are doing fantastic and I am so happy that things are working out. Don't feel bad about your success with us, we want you to succeed. I learn a lot from you and how you handle things.

Keep us posted

Hell, I think that I'm falling for the "New Bolt"!!! LOL...

Seriously though, I think that is awesome! That's how I'd like to be with my W too. I'm going to tuck your experience away and use it when the time comes.

Thanks

BITS
Denver

been depressed for days over my sitch, so this brought a big smile to my face.. thanks bolt ! and i'm very pleased for you !

That is a VERY valid reason Bolt. : )