It is nice to see you actually laying your feeling out for H. You have really kept things bottled up for a long time and I know it has been eating away at your confidence in the M. It seems that H responded positively to your concerns. In his own way, H DOES seem to be trying. (But, his way of trying is not always the way you would like it to be.)
H had to cut OW's pay this week. The owner told him to take the staff off commission, cutting the salary in half. It's wearing on him, and the other half of the recruiting team, I feel sorry for, but I have a hard time caring that OW is getting her pay cut. Maybe she will get fed up and go find another job! It also didn't help to find out that she makes more than H, even though he's the boss, and to think that one of her personal problems H was helping her deal with was not being able to pay her bills. I know it's the holidays, but I'm not very charitable today.
H has got something else on his mind, but he won't talk about it. He's not himself lately.
Kelli, I think it is very good that you are able to tell H how you feel. It is a hard transition to get off the egg shells and get back to a more normal mode of communication with WAW. Hope that made sense
Maybe you should just tell H, I know you are under alot of stress. Myabe there are things on your mind you don't feel comfortable sharing with me and I want you to know that I hope everything thing works out for you..... no Kelli don't tell him that but do you understand where I'm coming from?
Of course dealing with the closure of his moms house is alot.
Anyway heres hoping you have a Merry Christmas!!
Kim
Man it would be great if OW did move on!!!!!!!!!
"Those who don't read, have no
advantage over those who can't"
Mark Twain
Quote: Man it would be great if OW did move on!!!!!!!!!
Got my fingers crossed here.
Kelli, I can understand your feelings in regard to not feeling sorry for OW with her pay cut. And just because it's xmas, doesn't mean you're supposed to be superwoman.
As for H having "something" on his mind, as you already know, that could be anything - not necessarily a relationship issue.
Hope everyone had a good holiday. So far, it's been pretty good. Got up early this morning with the new puppy, and did snoop at H's email. Found OW sent him a merry christmas using another co-worker's email account. Not much, "merry christmas boss". Also found one saved one, from H to OW, saying how cute she looked asleep in her car. That upset me, until I saw the date - from April, so I just deleted it. We'll see if H notices. I think it was just forgotten in an old folder. Everything else seems to be gone. Any other emails I found were pure business. Today we look at old army jeeps. H has decided he would like a new hobby, and I agree. It would keep him busy here at home. Son is psyched about it, too. But why do his hobbies have to cost so darn much? The plateau is good, but I wish H would make more overtures. Oh well, give it time....
Well, we bought the jeep. H has spent all day in the barn. My sister commented he hasn't been so excited about something in a long time. Hopefully, it's an investment in himself, and not a way to hide out from me.
H says he expects OW to leave her job. She was not happy about the cut in pay. I don't know what sales people make, but she seemed overpaid to me when the school couldn't get enough students in the door to make payroll some weeks. If she leaves, that puts things on a whole different playing table. Gotta keep from "what iffing" that one.
Maybe the jeep is a "guy" thing that will serve a couple of purposes. First, H is excited about it and that is a good thing, and secondly, so is son. So the jeep may provide a lot of valuable bonding time between the two guys in your life. (I know we've had a 67 Mustang for about 25 years now, and it is the one common bond between H and S14).
I do hope the ow is looking for other employment. With her out of the office, I think many of your insecurities will disappear and some of the stress on H will loosen up a bit.
Went out with friends last night. It was fun, with affection, contact and lots of sharing of old stories and shared memories. Not an eggshell on the floor, and no tension. Didn't feel well when we got home, and H showed concern. Something he hasn't done in a while. Things are looking up. Hopefully, 2004 will be a wonderful year! Happy new year to all.
