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She had recently asked me to figure out what the plan would be for me to take some bills that are mine that get auto paid out of our joint account. So, on Saturday I asked her to find out what all the bills were and give me a list. She said that she would either "today or tomorrow" but never sent me a list. I think she doesn't want to deal with the finality of some of the details and I think that me agreeing that stuff like that needs to be done is throwing her for a loop a little. She was online quite a bit and sent me an email letting me know that my check had come but never mentioned getting the bills together again. Thoughts?

I emailed her today to tell her I got some info for taxes and she replied that she would get back with me soon.... no word on the bills and she never got back about the taxes. She is usually really on top of things so this is something... or nothing lol

Think it would be ok to email her and say I miss her? lol

I don't think that you are serious Next, but the answer is 'no'... unfortunately, bc I'd like to do the same with my W.

Where did Bond go? I still haven't heard anything back from her about the bills (she said she would get back to me by Sunday night)

My advice still stands. Call her. DO NOT tell her you miss her. Find a job that's closer to your home and move back.

If you want things to change, you can't wait for it to happen. YOU MUST BE THE CHANGE.

What's she going to do divorce you? Ooops. She already is. So what do you have to lose?

Yeah, I was joking about telling her I miss her lol.

I'm looking for jobs in both places right now but I think Houston would be the best place for both of us ultimately (career wise.)

I think that I am just going to go by the house. I need to get my mail so there is a reason to get in and out quickly. Other than that I don't have much of a reason to call her right now.

"I don't have much of a reason to call her right now."

She's your W isn't she? You ask for advice but you have a tendency to talk yourself out of it. Again that's the fear talking.

You're right. I realize that most of my decisions are driven by fear right now. I'm trying to be objective but it's pretty much not possible when it comes down to it.

I would just rather have a reason to call like "Did my check come? Ok, I'll come by and pick it up on Friday, hope you are doing well... bye"

something like that so that I don't have to ad lib because I'm definitely not in the right frame of mind to let it flow lol. But I know my check is there, I don't want to call and pressure her to give me the list of the bills because for all I know she is taking time to think... I just keep going back to the mantra of "when in doubt, do nothing."

"I'm trying to be objective but it's pretty much not possible when it comes down to it. "

Start by stopping the contradictions. Many of your posts start off saying what you should do, then you say why you can't do it.

Stop underestimating yourself. What have you been doing to build up your self-esteem again?

"when in doubt, do nothing."

How's that working for ya?