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grr #2126189 02/02/11 07:11 PM
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my heart breaks. If he really did get a place in Dec. why hasn't he gone there or taken his things? Am I being used for housekeeping and meals? I am so frustrated with him. He hang out all weekend and then I go upstairs to bed and he stays on the couch and the story repetes day after day.


me:51
H: 48
No kids together
M:14 years
seperated:Ask him to GET OUT 3/21/11
Piecing 09/14
verysad2day #2126191 02/02/11 07:13 PM
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Then, I have this BURNING disire to call OW's husband (they are divorcing) I know that wouldn't help a thing but I cannot stop plotting.


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M:14 years
seperated:Ask him to GET OUT 3/21/11
Piecing 09/14
verysad2day #2126194 02/02/11 07:21 PM
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VS - Keep yourself in check. Revenge and plotting iwll only justify your husband to leave you.

Do you have The Divorce Remedy book?


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M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0
T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd)
WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved
Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10
Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11
verysad2day #2126195 02/02/11 07:22 PM
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do not do that!
what will the outcome be??
it will do nothing but make your husband angry
it will also give him an excuse to sympathize with her and you will look like the "bad guy"


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grr #2126205 02/02/11 07:37 PM
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good points...Thanks for talking me off that cliff. I feel that we are doing so good. yet he stops and walls go up if I act like I want to become physical. All he has to do is sense it and it is over...yet one of his concers is that we never held hands ect....I don't get it


me:51
H: 48
No kids together
M:14 years
seperated:Ask him to GET OUT 3/21/11
Piecing 09/14
verysad2day #2126229 02/02/11 08:35 PM
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how do you stop from flirting and persuing when we live in the same house


me:51
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seperated:Ask him to GET OUT 3/21/11
Piecing 09/14
verysad2day #2126233 02/02/11 08:51 PM
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understand that he is uncomfortable with being physical right now
don't pressure him
don't even make an attempt
it will push him away
you HAVE to stop yourself from doing these things
it's hard, but it's what you need to do right now


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grr #2126248 02/02/11 09:37 PM
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My H just sent me a text that he arrived in TX and would let me know when his flight lands in PA. Should I text him in a few hours "good night" or just wait out the long night alone. I know this seems so stupid...but I am really angry at him and the OW. The good news...before, when I was in denial...he was gone every weekend with friends. Since 12/28/10 he has been with me....very distant. I am consumed with the 2 of them talking when I'm not "watching or listening"


me:51
H: 48
No kids together
M:14 years
seperated:Ask him to GET OUT 3/21/11
Piecing 09/14
verysad2day #2126249 02/02/11 09:46 PM
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do not text him
it's ok to let him miss you
it's actually very good to let him


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grr #2126250 02/02/11 09:48 PM
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Thats my "issue" I do NOT want him to think I do not care, something better came up. He said that is the way I made him feel. I'm struggling right now


me:51
H: 48
No kids together
M:14 years
seperated:Ask him to GET OUT 3/21/11
Piecing 09/14
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