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Originally Posted By: grr

denver, i cannot respond,, as he has no cel service on the island
his message said he would call back anyway tonight to speak to son
should i not speak to him when he calls?


I'd probably consider just letting your son talk to him and finding a polite way of being busy if he asks to talk with you. Of course, I forget how old your son is, so don't know if he can answer and get off the phone with your H by himself.

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he is nine and that is a good idea

and i asked you this in another thread, but i don't understand "believe zero of what they say" i mean, of course, i understand what all those words in the sentence mean, but i cannot grasp that concept
thanks
hope you are well
we are getting an ice storm in ny
yay
fits my mood


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ooops found your reply
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I answer on SIC's thread. But basically it means what it says. WAS is, in a way, crazy and in a fog. Most likely just as confused as we are, if not more.

Somebody on here posted the following and it helped me understand it...

"The way I got through that period was I saw my W as one of those crazy homeless people that you see sometimes muttering to themselves. After that, nothing she did or said really bothered me. I just tsked tsked it and chose to be happy."

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grr,

Tomorrow may be a better day, but why not the next hour?

Why put it off?

Yeah I know its happy fluffy bunny thinking.

But it beats the heck out of moping around your home.

Do something you like.

It's your choice.



Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis

Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans

Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK

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thank you
and i like happy fluffy bunnies
so there you go


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grr,

Simple fact of all of this, is it comes down to your choice.

You can decide to do this, and bemoan it all the while.

OR

You can decide to do this and...I dunno grow, learn, live your life, fill in the blank, find the silver lining.

You know?



Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis

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my head understands what you are saying
but my heart.............she has a harder time with things

but that is good advice and everyday i will wake up and give said choice a good shot

thanks for your input


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Mine too grr... especially tonight.

Hang in there...

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grr, I didn't realize you were from the NY area so you are bracing for the Ice/Snow as well. I am SO done!!!

Anyway, I pray for you everyday that things will get better for all of us and that our S's find their way home.

Hang in there my friend - sending you (((((HUGS)))))!


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M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0
T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd)
WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved
Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10
Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11
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