Why do I suffer for this person? Why do I stand for vows that only have real meaning to me? Is she worth it? Do they deserve such loyalty?
These are normal questions 2step.
And part of the process.
When we discover that this isn't something that will be fixed over night.
It is painful so make certain you know why you are doing it.
I know you came here to get your W back and it hasn't happened.
So
Now it doesn't look like you are going to get what you wanted when you want it.
Now what?
Well this is the tough part right?
You suffer because it isn't what you want.
She doesn't want what you want right now.
So why do it?
I found my answers.
Time for you to look for yours.
True,
You always show up with just the right words to say. I so appreciate your guidance. My feelings are a result of MY expectations something I have to overcome. I do try to shake them but sometimes I am overcome by them. I will continue to journey until I don't. Thank you
I still have hope for you 2step. You've made progress, you're talking and she liked the roses. Only you can decide when enough is enough. Prayers and hugs, my friend.
Me - 38, 2nd M, no living children, 1 forever 6 yr old boy H - 44, 3rd M, twins 16
Dating 4/07 M 10/08 Bomb #1 12/10 Bomb #2 1/11 Bomb #3 12/11
Thank you Hope I guess it really just depends on what time of day you catch me. I knew today would be a rough day for me since my daughters party was today. Also some friends came that I haven't seen since W left. They were our hanging out partners. We took vacations together and went out to dinner at least once a month as couples. It reminded me that my family is currently broken.
Seeing them really affected me. I don't know if this is normal but I feel shame in losing my W around them. Almost like I did something wrong. I know those feeling are not fair but I can't control them. It is just a rough night. By the way I didn't send roses I thought that would be too pushy I just sent an arrangement of lilies, roses, poms but there were only two roses and they were pink and yellow.
Today like many days in the past I see a future without W and I don't like it. I asked my DB straight up "you've done over 6000 phone calls please don't spare my feelings I can take it. Do you really see any hope here?" Her response "absolutely"
I guess the patience thing is tough when you see such a small victory like I think I had this week you expect so much more but when it doesn't happen you get let down. Just venting a little hope you don't mind
Yup, born and raised in the Tulsa area. At least your wife should be snowed in this week and have time to slow down and think. At least I'm hoping that's what my wife is doing lol
BITS
M 11/11/00 Bomb end of September 2010 Filed 11/9/10
Everything that you are going through is normal 2Step. Sounds like just a bad day and not any kind of setback on your progress. Remember, patience man, patience.
BITS! Denver
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
I moved to Tulsa when I was 16 with my parents spent a year there and then moved to Ponca where I met my first W. D after 3 years thank god and then met my 2nd W. Great woman we moved to Jersey for work I have family here that helped us get started. In essence I guess she went back home.
All my ex's live in OK.
Did I mention OM is lives in Tulsa. I say OM but in reality I really don't think anything is going on there.
