I think everyone is right. You'll never know why she won't look you in the eye so guessing will only make your imagination go nuts. But think about it this way... if she was able to do all this and look you in the eye as if she couldn't care less and was 100% confident in herself and her actions... wouldn't that be more worrisome?
Me - 38, 2nd M, no living children, 1 forever 6 yr old boy H - 44, 3rd M, twins 16
Dating 4/07 M 10/08 Bomb #1 12/10 Bomb #2 1/11 Bomb #3 12/11
"A warning to the people The good and the Evil This is war To the soldier, the civilian The martyr, the victim This is war
It's the moment of truth and the moment to lie The moment to live and the moment to die The moment to fight, the moment to fight, to fight, to fight, to fight
To the right, to the left We will fight to the death To the Edge of the Earth It's a brave new world from the last to the first
To the right, to the left We will fight to the death To the Edge of the Earth It's a brave new world It's a brave new world ...
I believe in nothing Not the end and not the start I believe in nothing Not the earth and not the stars I believe in nothing Not the day and not the dark I believe in nothing But the beating of our hearts I believe in nothing One hundred suns until we part ... I believe in nothing But the truth of who we are"
This is War - 30 Seconds to Mars ------
I am FIRED UP today...
OM is a predator, a scourge, to my M and to my family. My actions gave him an opening to attack. Now...I will unrelentingly track him, hunt him, and destroy him. Like a hunter patiently waiting camouflaged in the woods for his prey. I will pick his a*s off when the time is right ... and place his head on my mantel.
(figuratively speaking of course)
Denver
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
"Anybody have a good quote on how "time and patience are our most valuable asset" or some such tidbit? I need to hear that right now."
Your W may not be able to look at you for a number of reasons. My W does the same thing. For me, I take it as guilt. I don't think she can totally look at me in the eye and not feel guilty about what she did to me.
Do I make her feel guilty? No. But it's how she chooses to feel. So I try to make things as comfortable as possible for her.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
Can you be more specific here? New developments with OM? Just when I think I have completely detached I get a text from my W today completely out of the blue. I put it up. For some reason that text gave me hope. What did I do differently? I stopped worrying about her and started worrying about me.
