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I am working on it some days are better than others but I think I am getting the hang of this.

Funny story....

My first W called today to wish my D a happy B-Day (her mother) and my mom answered the phone. She told my moom after a few minutes of just talking. "The biggest mistake I ever made in my life was ruining my M with your son. He was a great man and I live with the regret everyday"

What are the odds of that happening in the middle of my situation. lol

Wow...

Are you DBing your current W or your first W 2Step??? LOL...

BITS

I'd say the odds were about 90% When it rains, it pours. Murphy is hard at work. But funny, nonetheless.

2Step - I concur. I think that this is a great sign for you. Funny, my W told me almost the exact same thing 3 weeks ago in a telephone conversation. Your response was absolutely perfect. It brought tears to my eyes bc it is exactly how I feel. If I had had my eyes open and seen the damage that I was causing, I would have stopped and spent the rest of my life making it up to her. That is what I plan on doing once my W and I reconcile.

Nice job man. You are doing great!

BITS!!!
Denver

2step,
Let me commend you on your work today. You did a very nice job. I am very excited for you. That seed of doubt in her head is starting to grow and bare fruit. But, remember, plants don't just grow overnight. Have you ever planted tomatoes? The plant grows and grows and you start to get frustrated as the "farmer." But eventually one day, you go out to water your plant and it has a small yellow flower on it. Now, remember, you are still weeks away from eating your tomatoes, but you have seen the first sign of what could be to come. Congratulations on your "flower." Keep watering, keep tending to your plant. You could have more tomatoes than you can eat very soon, buddy!!!!

Just be careful. If she is starting to struggle, she will be extra confused and might even become irritable again. No one likes to wake up one morning and realize they made a mistake. Treat her with "kid gloves" for now. None the less, keep up the good work and congrats!

BITS never walk alone!

FOBD

Been on the phone with W for 4hrs and counting. I will update tomorrow

That's awesome 2step! Let us know what happened ASAP!

Wow that's awesome. Hope it went well! The opportunity that we are all praying for everyday.

Wow! Now very curious to find out about the 4 hour conversation!!!!

2Step!

I'm so excited for this!! It's a baby step...but, its in the right direction...It should give you hope to keep on going!!!!

I'm soooo proud of you and how you responded to her feelings!!! You listened and felt her pain and then responded!!! You didnt try to fix it, you just acknowledged it right or wrong as to how she felt!

Great job - your growing Man!

Blessings,
Dixie