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For the record I was unaware of her intentions until she mentioned it to me.

Update....

Called W earlier for absolutely no purpose lol she did not answer
Called back while I was at lunch with a buddy

W"hey you called"
M "Yeah sorry about last night I was drugged up and half asleep. Not really sure what I even said to you. "
W "oh that ok where are you?" She hear the music in the back.
M " I am out."
W "out? where?"
M "just out. Listnen let me let you go I am kind of tied up right now. You will have the papers soon. thank you for calling back I appreciate it."

Went back to my seat and kept eating. Few minutes later she texted "U were quite evasive on where u were at....lol"

No response from me and then I get a call from her.

Chit chat for a few minutes

W "what are you doing?"

M "out with a friend eating lunch"

W " a friend that shall remain nameless"

M "You don't know them. How's you day?"

W "good I am out to lunch right now eating Taco Bell"
M "sounds good"

W " I like taco bell. Now I get to eat it whenever I want"

M "yeah that's great. Now your on your own you can eat taco bell all you want. Life is good"

W "yeah great. That's all I can afford"

M "well you'll be alright. Sides I think maybe some of your credit card debt will be eliminate it in the near future"

W "why is that. The credit fairy is going to come down and eliminate for me"

M " I don't know about the fairy but it's prob going to happen. It's my gut feeling"

W "You win the lottery?"

M "if I did I probably wouldn't tell you"

W "we are not D yet."

M "I better play after it is final then"

W "if you won you would share with me."

M "you sure about that?"

W "I know you would. I have no doubt"

Kind of a pointless conversation I know but it was light and lot's of laughter. Important thing I cut the convo short. Also her telling me about the lottery is kind of telling to me. She is so sure I would share because I believe she feels as if I would do anything to get back together and she has me wrapped around her finger.

Sorry guys but you know I like to quote because it keeps me from inventing stuff and I like to keep the convo pure so that I can get real insight.

Anywords?............

LOL - that whole conversation made me laugh!

I would assume her comments mean she believes she can still have you if she wanted - that your not really detached.

My W seems to say the same stuff, and at the moment she'd be correct - but it won't be the case forever.

They are playing with fire, that might burn them if their not careful.

Listen, this deserves more attention and I will give more tonight. But honestly, it is mighty presumptuous of your W to believe you would share lottery winnings.

You want to know what I think? She doesn't believe you are capable of detaching. You know what else I think? I don't think she's right.

Yea, sounds like a good time to vanish for awhile. Let her do some thinking. But hey, what do I know.

I agree with LIS and habit. You can and you should go dark.

B.I.T.S.

Hey Fellas thanks for the imput. I happen to agree with all of you. I know based on her demeanor that she is feeling total control and she likes it. That was clear in the conversation.

I am going to talk to my DB coach tomorrow and find out what is the best strategy here because as you all know she has not felt as if I cared for her. She always accused me of having an emotional delete button for people. I have been looking for it since she left but she must of taken it with her. lol

I think she is playing with fire also because if I decide to detach completely I am afraid my heart will hearten and at that point the tables would be turned. We will see how this plays out. We are watching and waiting looking at each other and learning from each other. I am going to catch up on all of your threads sometime tonight.

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Your conversation with your W went great!! Nice job Dbing!!