I think you get opportunities to make a positive impression. Lots of folks here would love to have some of the chances you have to do that. In other words, you get to see him, etc. He does make an effort (eg, buying you the necklace, once in awhile a kind word). I imagine it feels like crumbs to you but that's where you begin.
When you get them, why not make the MOST of them, rather than giving him an opportunity to confirm the choices that he has made?
Hang in there, sweetie.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
Glad they got a d serves them right. You cant build a life on lies and deception. I went to a life coaching meeting tonight at a woman's center. It was very inspiring. Very similiar to NLP which was interesting. The woman specializis in life coaching through d, she has gone thru d herself. there were about 12 woman there. My son went over to Mil house where h is living for his xmas visit. im glad I had the meeting to go to. ow was there which really could bother me. h bought son home and helped son bring gifts in the house. I hope h thought about how he misses being at our nice home. H was probably surprised i let son go there without a fuss. h asked son where I went.
But my ex did not leave me for another woman, he married this girl a few years later. He was 46, she was 26, and he accused her of having an affair. He accused me of the same, and that just is absurd. I divorced him because he was abusive. That was 1994, and I came to DB 2001 2 relationships later. I wish I had found DB early during my marriage because I think we could have developed some skills to save the marriage. I am not saying or would never advise someone to stay with someone who was putting them in physical harm. I wasn't being beaten, there was just enough physical, and he was getting worse. I was afraid for the kids as well, in fact, that's the point I ended it. At that point I believe there was no other choice, but we were married 10 years, and I believe if we had DB early on or at the midpoint, we could have changed things.
My relationship now is 9 years strong. We broke up for 4 months at one point, but we are happier than ever. You can be really happy too, rys, and I really hope and pray that happens for you.
I'm really glad you had the life coaching experience. Will it continue? Have you ever tried yoga? I have been going to classes at our Y for a couple of years, and now G is going with me (we just got back a little while ago). It makes you feel really cared for, at least in the right class. It's something healthy to do for yourself. Again--I'm really glad you took the life coaching class.
My kids are doing really well now, I appreciate your kind thoughts.
God bless you too, I'm keeping you in my prayers.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
Yes I have taken yoga classes and I was thinking of joining again. I found the meditation very relaxing and it was very good for flexability. Glad you have someone special in your life. Where did you meet him? The life coaching was just 1 night but she gave out her business cards if anyone wants continue with her. Im looking forward to getting my tony robbins tapes. they helped me a lot 20 yrs ago to get motivated, set goals, and control neg. thinking.These are his most recent ones.
i took s to counselor that school recommended but he said he did not want to go in. this is the first time he went. i went in and told the counselor and he said i can not force my son to talk to him or any other counselor. he came out to car to meet my son and told him if he ever wants to come and talk, he is welcome to. son told me that the situation does not bother him and stop worrying about him.
