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Why fake it at this point? Is that really going to do anything positive for YOU.

Go somewhere K!! Do it! Have fun and get away from this shitt.

There is no need to fake anything anymore is there?

Well, I'm wondering how the evening will go AFTER this takes place.

You are a free woman tonight!

Free to have fun and do whatever the hell you want and you're busy wondering about this 2 minute exchange with him?

I'm with trapt on this one kissak ... the difference between tactics and living DB ....

Thanks Trapt and PEI.

You are right Trapt. I am still back and forth alot on things. Im working on it though.

PEI....sometimes Im ok with doing things for him, but I question why sometimes.

Well, the weekend started off like this....H rushed in to get the kids. HE was running late because he went to a function with the OW for someone...I dont know who, didnt ask. He was late though and rushed in because he knew I had to leave at 7. He made a few smart comments about me having a date and that the Kids needed to hurry up and leave with him. He texted me to have fun, I said "I will and have a good nite" He just replyed "yep ok".

SO....The guy I have talked to some called me because I had texted him and said I was going to be in town looking for something to do, he asked if I wanted to meet him for dinner just so we could meet....so, that's what I did. He knew it was just so we could meet because we have talked on the phone a few times. I have told him in the past Im not ready for a R with anyone, he understoon, he is going through a separation/divorce also. WELL, we went and ate, rode around for a bit...talked, well HE talked. He is a talker lol. When it was over, he took me back to my vehicle....I got in my truck and I bursted into laughter....This guy was the most nervous acting guy I have ever met. AND I had noticed this when talking on the phone with him, but this I believe is the kind of person he is. He was very nice, polite and everything, but I dont think I could handle being around him. BUT I have made a friend out of it. The good thing is that my H stayed out of my mind for the rest of the night.

Saturday my H was short with me by texts...he said he was sick. I was in a great mood though and I dont believe he liked it. I was looking forward to my business meeting that night. It went well. I have this lady who wants to invest in my business to HELP me! Not for profit just yet. She wants to help me get back on my feet and to not worry about paying her back until I do. She came up with all kinds of great ideas and I am very excited and nervous at the same time!!

H brought the kids back for church sunday morning. He was testing the waters with me....saying things, I told him that he should go tell his GF those things, lol. The kids told me that H was going to take them bowling later that afternoon when he picked them up from church....they planned on going with the OW. BUT the OW woke up with her foot hurting....so they probably wouldnt go. SO, kids were with dad all weekend and all they did was go out to eat lunch Sunday. No OW the whole weekend. They were disappointed though because they didnt get to do anything with their dad other than eat lunch on Sunday.

Im in a better place though today. The weekend when I thought he was going to spend time with the OW and our kids, I was ok with it. I didnt blow up, didnt even let it get to me. I was just ok, not that I approve, but it is what it is, right?

Today I am focused on my business. Got lots to do to get ready for some changes!

Kiss! I am so glad that you had a good time. I liked the story about your friend being so nervous. I would have burst out laughing also.

I am also very happy to hear about the help you will be getting with your business. That will be a relief.

Have a great day!

go work on that business! Good luck.

Kissak, glad you had a good weekend...nervous guy was still a good distraction for you, if you enjoy his company and if he doesn't have any expectations of you, why not having a male friend, right?

Hope you make a deal with the lady about your business....that would eliminate one stress in your life.

(((hugs)))

Thanks Lorie, TAMF and Mila.

It was a great distraction, and boy was he nervous! I found myself more confident in his presence Usually I am the nervous one. It was good company though.

I am very excited about the business possibilities! Ready to get them going now, hopefully we can get things going before the end of the month...gotta gear up for the "V" word next month.

I am really needing some prayers today. Financial troubles. I need this new business adventure to take off now, but it may be a month before I see any income from it. I had to call my H today and ask for him to pick up our son's meds, because I didnt have the money. I hate asking him since he pays child support. Trying not to be bitter towards him though because thoughts of how good he is finacially right now really gets to me. Went home yesterday and shut myself in the bathroom and had a good cry. I hate being in this position. I have NO idea what to do.

Just asking for prayers.

((((Kissak))))

I know that you are proud and don't want to ask H for money. You really shouldn't feel bad asking him to help financially....he is responsible for creating all of this mess in the first place...have you talked to a lawyer?...maybe a formal separation agreement with some spousal support could be worked out....