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I agree with SBH about validating her thoughts.

I would also fire that therapist. What kind of professional encourages a spouse to cheat saying that you might as well do it or she'll do it anyway.

Maybe fine one that's PRO-marriage.

STFU?

This therapist has not encouraged any further cheating; if anything, he is holding it back. I did fire our first one... ML

If you're asking what STFU means it is - Shut The F*** Up.

If you're asking why you need to do that, it's because you need to let your wife talk and get her thoughts and feelings out. You need to validate those to let her know that you're listening to her. Validating doesn't mean you agree with all she says, just that she has a right to feel the way she feels. Do not make the mistake of defending yourself either. Just listen.

Thanks. Understood on the listening.