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So now what?
I did what counselor recommended.
I still have to see the WAS tomorrow and Sunday afternoon when he picks up and drops off our children.
Do I continue to display the unconcerned, cheerful attitude? Do I continue to say very little at all?
He is cold, and even rude to me. He looks at me like I'm some particularly poisonus insect.

Hi Scylla,

What did your coach recommend? Keep doing that--whatever it is, and try to detach from his reaction at this time. Just monitor what he does.

In one sense, the board is skewed. People who are fairly quickly successful do not stay on the board for the most part (we do have folks who do stay to give back, but most do not). So don't let that discourage you. Look around and see the successes that are here and learn from them.

I'm sorry you got the bomb--things will get better. Hang in there.

My heart goes out you and your family Scylla.

I know this is a painful time. I am in the same boat as you in the sense that your sitch and mine seem to have alot of commonalities.

I try and get on the boards as much as I can. So, I reach out to you in friendship and hope that maybe we can help each other. I certainly welcome all the board vets advice as well.

Peace to you....ZG

Thanks for your reply and offer. Walking this path alone is so hard and your offer to walk it with me welcome.
I have already reduced contact with or won't talk about my situation with certain unsupportive people that keep telling me I " have to accept the H is finished, so forget him and find happiness with someone else."
The length of our separation has me wondering often if they're right.