Well the skating on ice may only apply to the roadways....grr! As much as I love my winter weather, NOT tonight!
We had a 20% chance of freezing drizzle tonight but I dismissed it, cause it's 20%!
Well it is fine here, 30 min south of Omaha. However HG is coming from NW of Omaha by 30 minutes or more (he works out of town).
I should mention, he told me when I asked him to get together, that he had plans but was trying to change them so he could see me.
Well he just called and he did change his plans, but where he is North of Omaha, it is raining. And I just watched the weather, the freezing rain stuff is supposed to pass through Omaha between six and seven. Grr. He said that if it is raining ice skating is prob not the best idea and I agreed.
He said he would see how the roads are going in to Omaha and then call me back. If the roads are too bad we will have to reschedule.
So, we wound up getting together, but no ice skating since it was sleeting.
We met at a nice place that has a restaurant and a nice bar in the upstairs with a billiards area, shuffleboard, etc. We were just going to have a drink but wound up ordering a pizza to share. We both only had one beer which is good since it was crappy outside. Spent almost 3 hours sitting there eating and talking which was nice.
He is interesting....he initiated a 'where are we going' conversation!? For the record this was our fifth outing. No kiss yet, just a few hugs goodbye. Which is fine. I have done instant makeout on first date and regretted it, so I am in absolutely no hurry.
So anyway he asked me if I was dating a lot of people, I said I had gone out with one guy a couple times but decided I did not like him (Golf Guy), so was not dating anyone else currently. He said he had met a few people for a meetup but no real second dates other than me and was not seeing anyone else either.
Then he asked about introducing dates to kids, I said my kids were not prepared for that. He said he mentioned dating to his teenage daughters and they were not fans.
Anyway it was actually a very relaxed, no fuss conversation where he basically said he thought he was ready for a serious relationship but has realized he is not there yet.
I said I wasn't either, that I had had a similar conversation with a friend recently where he is looking for a serious relationship--but I am not. I am not ready to move in with anyone or rearrange my life around them. He said he feels the same way...so anyway he said he really likes spending time with me and wants to keep spending time with me but wasn't sure how I felt about us only being able to spend time together every other week or so considering our conflicting schedules.
So anyway loooong story short we are going to keep going out but no stressing about meeting each other's kids or any of that stuff. Which is perfect for me.
Anyway he was very sweet, he paid again (I offered since it was my idea to go out). And he walked me out to my car in the snow and offered to clean off my car for me. Well more like he said, "I can clean off your car, just give me the brush and you can get it warmed up." Then he said to let him know when I am free again so we can get together. His schedule is a flat every other week while mine varies, so he wants to work around my schedule...
Not sure this works for everyone but it works for me.
That sounds perfect! Just what you were looking for really. Someone to spend time with, have a few laughs, adult conversation, and someone of the opposite sex. PERFECT!
Enjoy yourself BBJ, you deserve it!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Yep, just what I was looking for. Someone fun I can spend time with and not worry that it has to be 'going somewhere' or 'leading to something'...and I liked that he was so direct about it and said he really liked spending time with me.
Sounds like a great evening BobbiJo! And for now, the whole situation sounds like a perfect setup to not get into something more than you want. Hard to beat all around!
Hey, I am glad your dating experince with HG is going at your pace! That is what is most important. Some of us want a kiss the second date, others need more time to get comfortable. At least you both discussed where you stood and know what your present level of comfort is!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
I was walking w/the kids back to the car after dinner out. My d decides to shuffle through the slush which irritates me bc she is wearing new, white and pink tennis shoes. I said, "No, you don't slide your feet through slush!" Then I caught myself and said something about "You slide your feet on ice, silly. When you slide through slush you get your shoes all smushy!" and I said it in a sweet teasing voice.
My son says, "How do you do that?" I said, "What?" He said, "Take something bad and turn it into something good." I said, "What do you mean?" He said, "Gigi dragging her shoes in the mush. Daddy would have just yelled at us. You always take something bad and turn it into something good, and he takes something bad and gets mad and keeps it bad....he just would have yelled."
Then at bedtime he yelled at me bc he wanted to look at something on the computer. I told him yelling at me was unacceptable, just as he shouldn't yell at his dad or sister. He said he never yells at dad. I said, "Then why yell at me?" He said he was afraid of his dad so he would never yell at him...
I told him I was sorry his dad yelled at him so much and I wished they could fix it. He said he doesn't like to talk to his dad about the yelling bc it will just make him mad. He and his sis have been talking again about how nice it would be if their dad came back home to stay, as their Christmas present.
So I took advantage of the moment and said, "I know you guys want Daddy to come home but you know a big reason why he isn't here is because of the yelling and being mad. He knows he can't come live here unless he learns how to not yell and be so mad." And Nathan really got it, he said it would not be good if he lived with us but was mad all the time. And then he said it was too bad because he didn't know if his dad could help getting so mad so he didn't think he would change...
At that point I changed the subject and cuddled and tickled the kids for awhile so the evening ended on a good note. Both kids are excited to have Mommy days over Christmas break, when we will be able to hang out at home together.
