True, Snodderly & Kimmie, thank you so much for posting to me & the happy birthday wish. My parents are here now & it is very helpful. Although it is also very sad that my ex is not here. I remember in 2006, he went on a scuba diving trip & didn't get back until the day after my b'day. He was so upset & said he would never be gone on my b'day again. I still miss him so bad.
Well, I got another email from my ex's friend's wife. Here is what she said: Heard that L and the troll are on their way back to Laos. Her one friend apparently lined him up with a job in Vientiene (the capital city). My friend has never said her name, she has always called her the troll or the evil woman or a Bit.....
From what I have understood that at one point my ex was going to come back to the states & live with his brother for 3 months while he looked for another job. According to my friend in Thailand, she didn't think they could afford both of them to come back. So, I have a strong feeling that she didn't want him back in the states without her & that is why they both stayed there. From what they told family members, it was cheaper to live in Thailand than for them to come back here. Just another excuse. I believe she wants to keep him out of the US.
My Mom & I went to see my friend today that has the shingles, she is much better. Still in pain but she is also starting to itch now, so she is on the mend. I had made her a couple of things for her to eat & took them over there. She was so happy to see us, she didn't stop talking the whole time we were there. I know she has felt everyone's prayers & I want to thank you all. She has really been sick & she has had them worse than anyone I've ever heard of but at least she is getting better.
Well, I haven't been on here in a while. Not too much has been happening with me or my x. I do know he moved back to Laos & has a job there & his best friend that lives in Thailand has blocked his email & his Skype b/c he knows that the OW is on the other end & he can't stand her & does not want anything to do with him until OW is out of his life. I've heard all this thru the wife of my x's best friend.
I've been working some, still only part-time but at least it is something. I went to a friends house today, she is actually a sister of a guy I used to work with, anyway he passed away in April of a stroke, age 51 & she wanted several of us that used to work with him get together to celebrate his life. It was sad but it was nice to get with friends. He was a really good person, had some self-destructive ways in the past but had really gotten himself straightened up & was enjoying life when this happened. He donated his organs, so he has also helped others.
Well, I guess I'm a little sad tonight, normally my H would have been with me going to something like this but I did it by myself. I'm trying to get off my antidepressants so it makes me a little more weepy & sometimes more sad but I'm getting there!
I'll try to catch up with everyone soon! (((HUGS)))
Hi Nlt, sorry I missed your birthday but hope you had a good day. It's good to hear from you again.
I think it's very interesting that your XH's best friend has blocked H's email address. That says a lot about this OW. How long have they been friends?
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N, I'm sorry things are still in Neverland w/your h, but it's best he is over there and not in your hair at the moment. He's still completely out to lunch and until he gets himself together, you do not want to be around him. I think your h's friend is smart in blocking the email communications. It says a lot about him and the fact that he does not go along w/what your xh is doing.
Please be careful about weaning yourself off the AD's. I do hope you are working with your MD on this one.
Please take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Thank you for all you support & prayers. Well, I've had another email from OW, it was actually sent to a several people but of course she had to include me. She has changed now & has her own email address, but from what I understand even if my ex has one she is the one answering emails or writing them. I will change the names but here it is:
We are settled…the house is beautiful thanks to furniture purchased in Chiang Mai prior to our return to Laos…Our household goods arrived, the staff is hired (oh how that makes me so happy!), a housekeeper (English speaking!), gardener and security… (I still can’t figure out why we need security here – it is such a beautiful, quiet place!), and the internet is working! Whew! (EX)is loving his new job and is already off to Australia for training. He will be in Perth this coming week. Ah, a short trip so no diving this time…(sorry (EX)!) We will save the diving for our trip to the Great Barrier Reef – (EX)’s only wish for his 50th Birthday in February! I am settling in….making great new friends and considering the options for volunteering here. There are many great organizations doing amazing work – it’s hard to decide! I am also working on some consulting projects and deciding how to best market my website… www......net. I hope to take a quick trip back to the U.S. in September to see my kids and grandkids as well as do some much needed shopping for those things we just can’t get in SE Asia… It’s a tough job….but someone has to do it! All is calm and wonderful…we update Facebook pages regularly and are both available on Skype too! Stay tuned…Or better yet….send YOUR update! Love and hugs! (OW) & (EX)
Thank you for posting to me, no worries in missing my b'day.
My ex has been friends with the guy in Thailand since grad school. That does say a lot! He stuck by him when he M the first time, he didn't like her & tried to talk him out of marrying her but after he met me he told my ex he better hang on to me. Of course he didn't listen, he told me once that he should have listened to him. Now he may wish he had.
Thank you for posting to me. My MD has wanted me to get off the meds by the end of the year. He told me to start a little at a time which I did. Every thing has been going pretty good up until this past weekend & I got this email.
