Quote: very awesome stuff! does this mean we can drop the 4now part of your user name???
I'm such a geek!!!! I kept reading her ID as "trying 24 now". Never read it as "trying 2 4 now". Duh!!!! Yes, it takes me forever to figure out vanity license plates also.
I wonder wich one of us is the true geek? the ones who pick up on such things or those who don't.
Glad you made it! And I like your name of you new thread! Hope to someday be where you are at in your sitch!
You are a true friend! A wonderful lady, my inspiration, my shoulder to lean on! I want to follow in your footsteps! I want to have a chance to save my M too!
T2, Your where we all need to get to-that place where we don't let our insecurities take over. Right now if I stacked mine up on top of each other they would make one fine hill. Why are we so quick to jump to negative conclusions instead of positive ones? You admit it took you a long time to get where you are. We who are still in the process can learn alot from you. How to face our demons straight on and not let them take on a life of their own within us. Example: All day my H was distant and I was pretty tweaked out about it thinking he's pulling away from me and at any given time he was going to tell me he just couldn't do this anymore. It's thoughts like this that turn me into a big ball of anxiety, and I get all nervous and scared inside. It's kinda like the feeling that you get when the bomb is dropped. We're waiting for it to happen again. Why do we do this T2? Well, this is a positive thread, so I'll stop talking about the negative stuff and say that when we said goodnight my H kissed me, siad ILY, and told me to call him in the morning. He had a horendous headache all day and was not himself. (n a whole different issue)Seems when he's sick like that I'm the one that gets the short end of the stick. Is that because I'm safe? Don't get me wrong here folks-I have learned things. Like NOT to say anything negative to him when he's like that. To just let him be who he needs to be for whatever reason and not take it personally (I'm REALLY working on that one!) I am programed now to ask myself before I speak if it will bring me closer to my H and our R. If I don't feel it absolutely necessary, then I just drop it. I called him when I got in bed and he was so sweet. We had a good talk-just about small stuff. I told him I'd like to go to the movie Love Actually. Suppose to be very good. Then I stuck my neck out a little and asked his if he'd like to stay over tomorrow night, He said, "I could probably do that. We had discussed it was time he started. Now I ask you, if he did not want our M, would he bother with this stuff? Positives: -We are going Xmas shopping together this week -He'll help me put up lights and a tree even though I don't want one. Not sure how I could get out of it without looking like a female scrooge though. -He talked with me about plans for his company Xmas party. This totally stresses him out every year.He does not think anyone appreciates it. I tend to agree they do take it for granted-like it's owed to them somehow. I say "oh well It's all about giving and not expecting anything in return, right?" -H told me he loved me when we got off the phone tonight. -I was not clingy or whiney because I felt he was not paying enough attention to me. (I sure was taking a beating inside though!) -I'll sleep good tonight knowing I'm starting to get a grip on not taking his every move personally, (whew, that's a biggie!) -Last but certainly not least is that I'm SLOWLY beginning to believe him when he says it's totally over with the OW. That's the hardie that I think you were talking about T2. Only time and alot of mighty strong perserverance that will see you through this issue of TRUST. It's not for the faint of heart, that's for certain. So...the day started out lousy with me thinking it was ALL ABOUT ME, when it wasn't at all. It ended good with no bad things said because I kept my big fat mouth shut! T2, keep bringing thise positives on! We soak them up like paint on old wood! I'm so very happy for you and your NEW R! How could any man resist you I ask?? Rachael
Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.... (thoreau)
