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Whatever you determine would be the right amount...cut that "number" back. You are still reeling from the shock and wanting to make things right, so your brain is going to spring loaded to overcompensate...
So whatever your brain figures out as the right amount...it's too much...cut back

Okay--good advice. Thanks.

How do you get the signature at the bottome of each of your posts? I keep forgetting to add that each time I post a message?

Never mind. Figured it out from same question from another post.

I just discovered why it isn't good to continue talking about your marriage once your spouse has asked for a divorce.

Last night my husband and I briefly talked about our marriage before the kids got home from school. He said he didn't wan't to hurt me anymore, but then proceeded to tell me if we hadn't had our children he would never have married me in the first place.

He also said he wanted to go to couseling for the children's sake which was my original proposal to him a few weeks ago. Anyhow, he said he just wants to be a bout to get along well for our kids. Of course I agree. However, I did tell him, "so we can show our kids how to divorce nicely when they grow up." He said, "no, that's not it." I said, "Well, we're not showing them out to stay married." I know it sounds spiteful, but I wasn't mean about it.

Anyhow, he wanted to talk more that evening. I told him I didn't think it was a good idea and we shouldn't talk without a counselor's help. I was just too emotionally drained by that poiint and was doing my best to not cry. The tears eventually came.