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She married at 19 and divorced by 20. I think the relationship lasted 8 months.. again her ex would beat her. Makes me sick thinking of her in that situation. She is a bit immature with some things, but very mature with others.. Very Stubborn. Only sees things black or white, no middle ground at times.

Well she doesn't have an MLC.

IMO when she "kind of" told you about the film, you should have said "thanks for the info, but I have plans. Maybe next time."

You need to start generating interest for you back into her. Create an air that you have a life, which you do.

First name? I guess that's your call. I wouldn't go any further than that though being mindful of the board rules.

Well, if her answer was "sure" then I'd go. I mean why not? She sounds like she's into it.

If you received a "maybe" or "I'll get back to you" or something to that effect I'd leave it alone.

It's really important for you not to have any expectations about this. Take it for what it is right now. A night out.


It's a balancing act. If she isn't acting like you feel she should or maybe it doesn't go quite as good as you feel it should, and you react a certain way toward that. That would be a no no.

Take it for what it is and have a good time regardless. Be responsible for your own emotions.

Be confident, not needy or clingy and whatever you do, do NOT bring a your relationship or use one night out as some sort of guage.

There are many other situations where I wouldn't suggest you go but she sounds like she is open to it. So go... shine, show her a little something different.

As far as visiting the pups go? Your call. Are you comfortable with her being there alone? If so, go find something fun to do during that time and see how it goes with you not there. You definitely don't want to give the impression that you are standing around anxiously awaiting her arrival. Know what I mean?

That's alright...right now that's probably the right mindset to have.

Edit: Sorry that should read do NOT bring up your relationship.




Theres a flip side to this too. If it does go well and say she is being a little affectionate toward you.... don't go turning into mush either.

It's a pressure free night out.

Balance.

Thank You-

Opinions: should I let her initiate when to go to movie or should I? I am gonna go regardless.

I have noticed when that when we haven't text in a couple days, she initiates the contact. Always about our dogs, usually not a hello to see how I am doing.

Tech advise here. I am noticing that my responses aren't following my posts. What am I doing wrong here?

Well this is just a suggestion, you could give it a little time and see if she brings it up. If she still hasn't, you could say something like "remember that movie we spoke about going to see last week?" I'm going to see it on (what ever day) if you wanna come along.

Then go no matter what.

If you're going to go anyway, then you initiate the terms. The time, place, where to eat, etc. Keep things light and lively. When you interact with her, show her interest as if you were dating her for the first time. Someone once told me that when my W talked I should listen as if she were the only one in the room, which (of course) is what I did when we first dated. It worked.

Don't expect anything out from the evening. Let it flow but still maintain a certain level of detachment.

It's a hard balancing act, but you can do it.