You all were right, i did get the phone records for one month of text messages, the out of town guy was on there several times, but i found another number on there ALOT, so i called the number and a guy answers it so i hang up.
So i ask my wife if she had been texting the out of town guy and she said no just when his kid was sick, i asked her who the other number was and she said a girlfriend, i said why would you be texting her if she was out of town with you. i said i will call the number and see who answers it and i asked why a guy would answer the phone. I asked her to tell me the truth, she would not so i got the packet that had all the text on it, very thick
She told me she fing hates me and i have ruined her life, she cannot have any friends, saying he was someone that was helping her because she could not talk to me. I told her to leave the house, she grabbed the packet and she went to the phone company to change the account. I told her to give my packet back to me and to get out of the house.
Told her is an emotional and she could have been talking to a woman or a counselor alone, she said friend, i just needed someone to talk to.
You all get the picture but i said would you like if i was texting to a woman all day all the time.
In an odd way, she actually would respect you MORE if you were texting a woman all day all the time. You would look more attractive to her if another woman was interested in you. I'm not at all saying you should seek this, but women think differently than men. Saying things like "would you like it if I was texting a woman all day all the time" to her, while they seem like they are reasonable statements that SHOULD change her mind and get her to stop this bs, absolutely WON'T. So the real point here is, you have to stop thinking you can convince her to change based on morals, because she doesn't want to have anything to do with morals right now.
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She would not leave the house, so i talked to her for about five minutes calmly and laid a guilt trip on her, went to bed early and i herd her calling on apartments, so this morning i asked if we are done and she said it is so f up now. I asked her did this man help up and she said no, i said did he help you and she said i dont know.
I still cant decide if i should file. I know I should!
i asked her who the other number was and she said a girlfriend, i said why would you be texting her if she was out of town with you. i said i will call the number and see who answers it and i asked why a guy would answer the phone. I asked her to tell me the truth, she would not so i got the packet that had all the text on it, very thick
She told me she fing hates me and i have ruined her life
She lied. Plain and simple. Of course she "f-ing hates" you. You jjust called her out on her lies. So now she is going to act like you are this awful person who has done her wrong when actuality she is the one trying to cover up this crap. Don't fold, Double. She is still acting wishy-washy and has told you to your face that she won't be transparent w/ you.
Get ready for being blamed for everything at this point. Of course she will say you f'd up her life, easier to blame others for your own mistakes. She will say hurtful things, but try not to show her they hurt, this is where detaching will help.
I was lucky enough to get an appointment with a DB coach today and that in a nutshell is the only hope she sees, she asked me filing for divorce and me wanting custody of the children and house is because i cannot do this anymore or me trying to hurt her, it is both but more the later.
I am really stupid, grabbed my wifes phone and tried to leave the house with it and she was grabbing me to stop me, of course the kids were there, Sunday same thing happened she pulled my shirt off and hit and my son pulled my shorts off and i wanted to get out of the house I though he was going to pull my underwear off and she was trying to stop me also so i took them off and went out the front door, turned around to open the door and it was locked. I no there is no excuse but she had gone out Friday night, came home at 3am Saturday morning and went out Saturday night and came home after 4:00am Sunday morning i had about fours sleep from Friday morning through Sunday morning. I told her i just wanted to die so she would have the kids all the time.
She told me today to leave the house, and if i would not she would take the kids to her sisters house. I called the lawyer. Said she is done.
