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you know that my underwear smells like a fresh bouquet of flowers,
my underwear doesn't stink,
the OM's underwear stinks,
OMG you're washing the OM's underwear too?!
You $lut I want a divorce!!!!

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From Toby's wife POV?

Unless she has been having an EA and sexting and that wonderful crap.

She HAS been trustworthy.

We all know the odds on the affair. Brutal odds.
Doesn't mean it has happened YET.

However Toby,

Your wife going there alone with the 30 ex, all of us here see the potential disaster in the making.

He didn't tell his wife.
The question I'd ask YOUR wife in your shoes is: what does that tell her?



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Originally Posted By: Starsky309

"Wow. I'm sorry you feel that way. Then a calm, firm, confident statement containing at lease these points:

1) If you choose to go with OM. I am done being married to you.

2) I will pack up your stuff and you can live someplace elses.

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"Your an a$$.

Stay away from me. There is something wrong with you. Want to know why I want nothing to do with you:

Originally Posted By: TobyTess
I am HDH my wife has been LD for 12 years. Of sexual encounters of any sort there has been one in the past 4 months whereas by choice Im a once a day, evey day, kind of guy. If I do not MB daily I get IRRITABLE. Using pornography to facilitate this seems to ease my resentment of our situation.
Is pornography use always wrong from a Christian perspective or otherwise ?


Youre sick. There is something seriously wrong with you.

Leave the house? You move out.
Maybe you need to get your head out of your a$$ and grow up for once. I am not leaving my children you can't make me. And if you want a divorce go right ahead."

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"I'm sorry you feel that way, but not I'm not leaving my own house. I'll understand if you want to, though, and I won't stand in your way."


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BD 5/07; W's affair 5/07-8/07

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"and there is nothing inappropriate about our friendship. I took our daughter with us. I invited you. YOU ARE THE ONE THAT DIDNT WANT TO GO.

Whats your problem now? Oh never mind, I know.

We're done. I am so sick of your controlling behavior. I am sick of lying to myself and punishing myself for not being good enough for you. I hate you."

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Originally Posted By: Starsky309

"I'm sorry you feel that way, but not I'm not leaving my own house. I'll understand if you want to, though, and I won't stand in your way."


"Are you serious? You want me to leave?"

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"I didn't say that. I said I'M not leaving. You're welcome to stay, although I'll understand if you don't want to."


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BD 5/07; W's affair 5/07-8/07

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Quote:
"Are you serious? You want me to leave?"


"It wouldn't be right for you to stay here while you are having in appropriate relationships with members of the opposite sex. Do I really need to set up an intervention so that you can hear that from somebody besides me?".


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I quit. I am in the wrong.


You can not tell your wife to move out of the house for TALKING to another man that you have previously given her permission to.

Not only will you be viewed as controlling and have all your issues thrown right back in your face, but you are going to push them right into the "I'm outta here" planning phase. And as you can see from this site, once they have an escape plan and a new friend, You lost them for good

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So true... Don't OVER react....

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