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I am. There just isn't going to be any persueing on my part. I'm becoming the man I was, the man I should have always been. I have no problem being mysterious or GAL'ing. I'm going to be strong and confident during this process. Even the way I was just a week or two ago is different then how I am now. I want to be the man that I want to be, if that is the same one that she wants then so be it, if not then I'll live.

Become the man she wants to be with.

Do you know what she wants?

No, I'm becoming the man I want to be. She doesn't even know what she wants. I know the man I was when we first meet. I was confident, didn't hesitate to say what needed to be said. I wanted her to be part of my life and over time I made her my entire life, big mistake. The man I was and the man I want to be aren't that much different. Just a couple of upgrades here and there.

First part is mind reading.

The second begs a question: why do you feel that way?

The first is mind reading but so is asking what kind of guy she wants. Both would take mind reading.

The second is something that everyone should take note. I believe that if you spend your entire relationship trying to fulfill someone elses needs you lose yourself. It goes back to the addage that u can only be responsible for your own happiness. I should have taken care of myself just as much as taking care of her.

No, the first one was asking you if you know what your wife wants from you.

How can you be the magnet you were when you first met her.

You were the Man weren't you?

The second needs more to be understood.

The second needs more to be understood in what way?

Of course I was the man. I knew it she knew it but that's what I lost along the way.

Alright everyone new question. Is going dark always the right thing to do or are there instances where very light contact is better for a situation?

Is there a situation behind this question?

Nope, just curious. Every situation is different. I just wonder in my case for instance does going dark make the most sense. I have no problem doing it if it's by far the best thing for me. Just from what you know pookie and anyone else I was just wanting some perspective.