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I haven't followed your sitch, but, basically everything that has been stated. She probably had a fight with OM, or something similar, and now she feels all her life is falling apart and no one is there for her. This may be the first of many nights similar to what you had. Let her cry to herself next time. Go to your room, if she wants to talk to you that badly, she can come to you. Don't go to her, you are feeding her the cake.

Shocked,

good advice. Thanks.

Yup!

Don't let her cake eat, do not be there for her. She knows she has you, just look at your actions.
She needs to move out, what boundaries have you established?

Consider the effect that OM dumping her would have on her,
you know Gucci has commented on this very thing several times, dump her, reject her, especially if she's been having an affair - remove yourself from the available options and watch your market value soar sky high.

She knows she can have you, but guess what she wants the OM, specifically because he dumped her, he let her go, not the other way around. Look at this way, She let you go, and you want her.

That's the effect of letting someone go.

Robx,

You are of course correct.

I wont go for the trap.

thanks for the comments.

Hey Pen, I didn't mean for my post to sound so cranky. Sorry if I offended... I hadn't had my coffee yet.

I guess my point was that you're going to start to see a lot of wacky behavior from her now once you actually start to move on with your life. Last night was prbly just a glimpse of the wishy washyness that is coming.

Don't put too much stock into any of it until you KNOW it's real.

Yeah... things are going to be weird no matter what course this follows in the end I think.

Just wait until you get an email saying something like, "I made a terrible mistake", and then you cooly respond with something like, "Yeah, I know", and what follows is a three page note about how she scared the other man away with her neediness.

There's an ego check. Might as well check your own ego now.

Kon, no worries. Truth in your words.
TH, YIKES!

So I had a Cardio appointment today to get some stuff dealt with from my military retirement and WAW texts me to go to lunch if I am done when her lunch break is.

I complete my DR appointment and text her sure why not.

We go to lunch. She asks about the appointment and offers to come to the next one (some testing) if I need her to. I tell her no thanks I am fine. It will be okay.

Then we make small talk simply about our son and his doctor appointments and then I tell her I am going to Jacksonville for a friends retirement from the Navy. She said "oh okay" and then we finish lunch. No talk about last night, no talk about future or R no anything.. Then we are done and as we walk out she says what are you going to do for the rest of the day? I said some stuff that I have been waiting to do at home. She said okay see you later and that was that.